[blparent] Advice: buying a house

Wed May 9 17:20:23 UTC 2012

I normally refrain from adding my two cents into boiling cauldron 
discussions like this one, but I just wished to point out that if there is a 
house and there are or will be children, it is certainly relevant. Perhaps 
you may feel that the discussion is a bit of a tangent, but I expect it all 
ties in. Advice to minimize stress that can affect a family is, in my mind, 
worth reading. No, this topic is not speaking of bottles, bibs and binkies, 
but about how to provide a child with a home they will undoubtedly spend 
many years in. The legistics all tie into giving a child as stable a life as 
possible, and many factors tie into that.

I think that one of the most wonderful aspects of this list is the vast 
array of opinions here. It is normal when people gather together in a group 
for there to be differing views, values and ideas. This is true when it 
comes to parenting, and, I daresay, it is true when it comes to what we feel 
relates to our parenting. I for one will be moving into a new home shortly 
after my child is born. Whenever I survey a house, I am thinking first and 
foremost about whether or not I feel it is a place my children will be able 
to happily call home. And many factors tie into this, so I am thankful for 
any advice I can glean on the subject, especially when that advice is coming 
from other blind and visually impaired parents.

I respect that you do not feel this topic applies to parenting. And I hold 
no ill will against your strong protestations to that effect. I do, however, 
feel it only fair that you extend those of us that find this topic relevant 
the same courtesy. Please do not antagonize or speak disrespectfully to us 
simply for opinions that do not match your own. We are all different in the 
way we think. That is neither a good or bad thing. It is merely a fact and I 
believe our differences are what keep this place interesting.

Respectfully,
Sirena

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S" <theblindtech at gmail.com>
To: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>; "Blind Parents Mailing List" 
<blparent at nfbnet.org>
Cc: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, May 09, 2012 11:39 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Advice: buying a house

> There are other appropriate list servers hosted by the nfb that are more 
> appropriate for these topics. This is a blind, parenting list it is a list 
> for parents were blind or have blind children in regards to parenting. 
> Simple as that. Are you saying just because a bunch of wine people agreed 
> to talk about the topic, that makes it blindness related? Pitiful.
>
> Gabe Vega
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> (623) 565-9357
>
> On May 9, 2012, at 8:26 AM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
>
>>
>> Blindness related.  I rest my case.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
>> compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant 
>> of the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been 
>> all of these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
>>
>> --------------------------------------------------
>> From: "Melissa Ann Riccobono" <melissa at riccobono.us>
>> Sent: Wednesday, May 09, 2012 8:14 AM
>> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Advice: buying a house
>>
>>> I think it is very normal for a real estate agent to take perspective 
>>> buyers
>>> from house to house.  At least that's what we did, and it worked out so 
>>> much
>>> better because we could see multiple houses in one day.  I think the
>>> research you might want to do would be to learn a little more about the
>>> buses, which ones are the "best" for you to be near, and where those 
>>> buses
>>> stop.  Then you can tell the realitor you want to look in this or that
>>> specific neighborhood or area of town, instead of looking at houses 
>>> simply
>>> "near a bus stop" and then finding out it's not a good bus.  It might 
>>> also
>>> be nice to talk to friends and/or other blind people in your area to see
>>> what neighborhoods they live in, what they like about those 
>>> neighborhoods,
>>> etc.  If you can walk to a lot of places like a grocery store, library,
>>> park, etc. from a particular area, then it's possible you might trade 
>>> that
>>> off for the availability of a bus...  Although that's a very tough 
>>> ddecision
>>> to have to make.
>>> Just some thoughts.  The best of luck!
>>> Melissa
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On
>>> Behalf Of jan wright
>>> Sent: Wednesday, May 09, 2012 7:53 AM
>>> To: blparent
>>> Subject: [blparent] Advice: buying a house
>>>
>>> Hi All,
>>> First, I want to thank everyone who responded to my questions about 
>>> bottles
>>> and johnny jumper things.
>>> We have a pretty consistent group of parents and child care providers 
>>> who
>>> --- may not always agree, but give wonderful advice for each season of 
>>> our
>>> lives. And, we are as diverse as any other parent group:
>>> from spiritual to not; from crunchy to progressive (those might not be
>>> opposites, but you understand what I mean); from babies to adult 
>>> children;
>>> from stay-at-home parents  to working parents; ... etc.
>>>
>>> So, I thought that I might post here about our "house buying" and ask 
>>> for
>>> any tips and advice. I have done research, but, there isn't much from a
>>> blind person's prospective. Maybe there doesn't need to be:
>>> because maybe it is not any different from sighted people buying a 
>>> house.
>>> But, I did have a couple of questions:
>>> 1. How did you choose your realtor? We have one of these, already, but
>>> wonder if we  shouldn't have looked farther. DH's boss said that his 
>>> realtor
>>> would transport him to and from the prospective houses. Is that 
>>> normal??? We
>>> find that this is one of the most difficult things to do because 
>>> paratransit
>>> takes so long, we can only see one house per day.
>>> 2. Public transportation is not very good here in Indy. People from 
>>> other
>>> cities have commented on how fragmented it is. And, there aren't many
>>> sidewalks in residential areas or down busy streets and ... ... a good
>>> shoulder is hard to find. [ARe those words to a country song?????] 
>>> (smile)
>>> But, we are trying to find a house that is close to a bus stop --- and a 
>>> bus
>>> stop that would take DH to work and us downtown. Sometimes we find a 
>>> house
>>> close to a bus stop, but the wrong bus stops there.
>>>
>>> Any other advice????
>>>
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