[blparent] children and trust

[Veronica Smith]

My friend Melissa used to put her  son and my daughter in a enclosed
trampoline while we did yard work or just wanted to visit without mommy do
this or mommy do that.  They were safe, could not get out and were in the
shade.  If I had thought about it, I might of leashed them up.  Wish I
thought of it.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Peggy
Sent: Wednesday, May 23, 2012 8:43 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] children and trust

I totally understand where you are coming from, especially when I have a
dog's leash in one hand and a child leash in the other!!  When we are
walking around, Dylan is being taught to hold my hand.  If we are sitting in
a place, doc office, at a pool party, etc., I put a leash on him, this way
he can move about a bit, I know where he is, and I can sit and converse with
people without hollering every two seconds to find out where he is.  It also
prevents him from running around like a maniac, which a lot of kids do, and
I can't stand!!  When he's being stubborn about holding my hand, the leash
does come out.  And I will never unsubscribe from this list, every blind
person has things that work for them and things that don't.  I use a leash
at times and take no offense that my son's treated like a dog!!  There has
been a couple times I've hooked his leash to a retractible leash and then to
something to anchor him, this is how I do yard work in the front yard, along
a busy street.  This way he can play, safely, and I can work.  Is he a dog??

Nope!  But it works and keeps him safe ... Oh I'll probably get a lot of
guff for chaining up my son, lol.

-----Original Message-----
From: Jodie and Kahlan
Sent: Tuesday, May 22, 2012 1:27 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] children and trust

Hi. I didn't want to send this before because I wasn't sure how I could do
it respectfully. Honestly, my first thought was to say that I won't treat my
child like a dog. But I thought about it and now I can see the potential use
for a leash. As for me, I would only use it as the very last resort. This is
just my opinion and I'm not trying to criticize anyone's parenting style.

I agree with Rebecca that freedom is earned and that Miles made a mistake,
but it's my opinion that if your child is kept on a leash at all times, he
or she won't have the chance to earn back your trust or his or her freedom.
Personally, I would try all the audio tips, and teach Kahlan to answer or
come when called. if she doesn't respond in some way when she's called, then
and only then would I use the leash because she proves to me then that she
can't be trusted yet. Until she learns to answer or come, I think the bells
and the child locator will be our best friends.

--
Hugs from Jodie and kahlan

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get out of bed button or tab to the snooze button. Remember if you hit space
on the cancel button, that means that you're not in your right mind to make
a decision at this current time. Cancel button.
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you're really and truly awake. Good bye button.


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