[blparent] children and trust

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

I had a retractable leash that I used with Sarah when our church met in a 
room where there was a long, open hallway outside.  That way Sarah could run 
up and down that hallway, but she wouldn't get to far from me, or tumble 
down the stairs at one end.  Did I think of her like a dog?  No.  But she 
got to be safe and free, in a way I couldn't have done without the 
retractable leash.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Peggy" <pshald at neb.rr.com>
Sent: Wednesday, May 23, 2012 8:43 PM
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] children and trust

> I totally understand where you are coming from, especially when I have a 
> dog's leash in one hand and a child leash in the other!!  When we are 
> walking around, Dylan is being taught to hold my hand.  If we are sitting 
> in a place, doc office, at a pool party, etc., I put a leash on him, this 
> way he can move about a bit, I know where he is, and I can sit and 
> converse with people without hollering every two seconds to find out where 
> he is.  It also prevents him from running around like a maniac, which a 
> lot of kids do, and I can't stand!!  When he's being stubborn about 
> holding my hand, the leash does come out.  And I will never unsubscribe 
> from this list, every blind person has things that work for them and 
> things that don't.  I use a leash at times and take no offense that my 
> son's treated like a dog!!  There has been a couple times I've hooked his 
> leash to a retractible leash and then to something to anchor him, this is 
> how I do yard work in the front yard, along a busy street.  This way he 
> can play, safely, and I can work.  Is he a dog?? Nope!  But it works and 
> keeps him safe ... Oh I'll probably get a lot of guff for chaining up my 
> son, lol.
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Jodie and Kahlan
> Sent: Tuesday, May 22, 2012 1:27 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] children and trust
>
> Hi. I didn't want to send this before because I wasn't sure how I could
> do it respectfully. Honestly, my first thought was to say that I won't
> treat my child like a dog. But I thought about it and now I can see the
> potential use for a leash. As for me, I would only use it as the very
> last resort. This is just my opinion and I'm not trying to criticize
> anyone's parenting style.
>
> I agree with Rebecca that freedom is earned and that Miles made a
> mistake, but it's my opinion that if your child is kept on a leash at
> all times, he or she won't have the chance to earn back your trust or
> his or her freedom. Personally, I would try all the audio tips, and
> teach Kahlan to answer or come when called. if she doesn't respond in
> some way when she's called, then and only then would I use the leash
> because she proves to me then that she can't be trusted yet. Until she
> learns to answer or come, I think the bells and the child locator will
> be our best friends.
>
> -- 
> Hugs from Jodie and kahlan
>
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