[blparent] resource list

[Leanne Merren]

That is exactly what a mom said to me once, and the next day my husband and 
I noticed her 2 year old walking down the side of a busy street 
unsupervised.  I don't try to judge other people's parenting styles, and I 
really don't care if they judge mine, but it's hard to overlook a young 
toddler walking alone on a busy inner city street.
My point is that sometimes our best intentions alone might not be enough. 
Kids test boundaries, and as blind parents we can't always catch a child who 
is darting toward the street, which is a major fear of mine.  I was hit by a 
car myself once, so having young children near the street makes me very 
nervous.  I think using the leash is a much better sollution than keeping my 
children locked in the backyard and never taking them out anywhere.  One of 
my children is a true example of the saying "in one ear and out the 
other..." I have tried all of my carefully planned out parenting strategies 
to get her to obey, and still I cannot trust her to do what she's been 
taught.  I refuse to punish my other children by keeping them all home 
because she might put herself at risk, so she is to hold my hand or walk 
right beside me, and the minute she starts testing boundaries she wears her 
harness.  I will not ever risk the safety of my children to comply to what 
other people consider to be acceptible parenting.  I believe I am a "good 
parent" because I care enough to do what has to be done to keep my children 
safe.
Leanne
-----Original Message----- 
From: Amanda Matheny
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 11:44 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] resource list

I will never think a leash is okay for a child. A good parent will
find better ways to keep their kid under control besides restraining
them wih something like that. Leashes are for animals, not children!

On 5/29/12, Jo Elizabeth Pinto <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
> Sorry, but you may think it's less cruel as your kid gets older and wants
> more freedom.  The leash isn't to make your child into a dog, it's to help
> your child stay near you without holding on his hand every second, while
> he's young and easily distracted.  Believe me, the leash is far less cruel
> than having your kid run off into the street or into some other dangerous
> situation, or having to keep him glued to your hand when he wants some 
> room
>
> to explore.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a
> song."  Maya Angelou
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Amanda Matheny" <mommyzhuuraan at gmail.com>
> Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 9:26 AM
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] resource list
>
>> Ewww, leashes! I hate when people put their kids on a leash like an
>> animal! Sorry, but that's just WRONG!
>>
>> Just saw that in the list and had to comment. I'm not usually so
>> bitter about something, but I've seen it before and happen to think
>> it's cruel.
>>
>> On 5/29/12, jan wright <jan.wrightfamily5 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> OK,
>>> I think I'll start keeping these messages in a file so that  when
>>> people ask about leashes or harnesses or child locators or bells or
>>> squeezy spoons, I'll have a listing for them.
>>> It probably won't be as fancy as someone else's and honestly, it would
>>> be a good idea to start having such resources on hand: (maybe at the
>>> nfb website) for blind parents.
>>> But, until that happens, a good text resource list is a good idea.
>>> But, before I start: has anyone already done this?????
>>>
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>>
>>
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