[blparent] resource list

Tue May 29 17:00:32 UTC 2012

Great post Leanne!  These are all great tools that we can choose to use or
not use depending on what works best for us as parents and according to our
children's individual personalities.  I used to cringe before I became a
parent every time I saw a screaming child in the store.  Now I feel nothing
but empathy for that parent and simply say a little quiet prayer that the
mom or dad dealing with the tantrum is able to make it home safely without
pulling too much of their own hair out or losing their temper with their
child.  There are situations when we see obvious neglect or bad parenting
going on and that's a whole different thing all together, but frankly I
don't care if a parent needs to use a fishing net, to keep their child safe,
as long as it works in keeping that child away from danger that's all that
matters. GRIN  Seriously though, it's important as parents to keep an open
mind, think objectively and try things out that we never before thought we'd
try because it may surprise us in how efficient it is. 

Erin

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Leanne Merren
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 9:41 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] resource list

That is exactly what a mom said to me once, and the next day my husband and
I noticed her 2 year old walking down the side of a busy street
unsupervised.  I don't try to judge other people's parenting styles, and I
really don't care if they judge mine, but it's hard to overlook a young
toddler walking alone on a busy inner city street.
My point is that sometimes our best intentions alone might not be enough. 
Kids test boundaries, and as blind parents we can't always catch a child who
is darting toward the street, which is a major fear of mine.  I was hit by a
car myself once, so having young children near the street makes me very
nervous.  I think using the leash is a much better sollution than keeping my
children locked in the backyard and never taking them out anywhere.  One of
my children is a true example of the saying "in one ear and out the
other..." I have tried all of my carefully planned out parenting strategies
to get her to obey, and still I cannot trust her to do what she's been
taught.  I refuse to punish my other children by keeping them all home
because she might put herself at risk, so she is to hold my hand or walk
right beside me, and the minute she starts testing boundaries she wears her
harness.  I will not ever risk the safety of my children to comply to what
other people consider to be acceptible parenting.  I believe I am a "good
parent" because I care enough to do what has to be done to keep my children
safe.
Leanne
-----Original Message-----
From: Amanda Matheny
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 11:44 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] resource list

I will never think a leash is okay for a child. A good parent will find
better ways to keep their kid under control besides restraining them wih
something like that. Leashes are for animals, not children!

On 5/29/12, Jo Elizabeth Pinto <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
> Sorry, but you may think it's less cruel as your kid gets older and 
> wants more freedom.  The leash isn't to make your child into a dog, 
> it's to help your child stay near you without holding on his hand 
> every second, while he's young and easily distracted.  Believe me, the 
> leash is far less cruel than having your kid run off into the street 
> or into some other dangerous situation, or having to keep him glued to 
> your hand when he wants some room
>
> to explore.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has 
> a song."  Maya Angelou
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Amanda Matheny" <mommyzhuuraan at gmail.com>
> Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 9:26 AM
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] resource list
>
>> Ewww, leashes! I hate when people put their kids on a leash like an 
>> animal! Sorry, but that's just WRONG!
>>
>> Just saw that in the list and had to comment. I'm not usually so 
>> bitter about something, but I've seen it before and happen to think 
>> it's cruel.
>>
>> On 5/29/12, jan wright <jan.wrightfamily5 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> OK,
>>> I think I'll start keeping these messages in a file so that  when 
>>> people ask about leashes or harnesses or child locators or bells or 
>>> squeezy spoons, I'll have a listing for them.
>>> It probably won't be as fancy as someone else's and honestly, it 
>>> would be a good idea to start having such resources on hand: (maybe 
>>> at the nfb website) for blind parents.
>>> But, until that happens, a good text resource list is a good idea.
>>> But, before I start: has anyone already done this?????
>>>
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