[blparent] fighting children

[Jennifer Jackson]

Jodie, you have a good point here. My comments were in reference to crossing
a busy street and that had to be the priority over other goals. See what I
mean about "it depends." :) Now on a long outing I might experiment with
having them hold hands for a street crossing with little to no traffic even
if they have been fighting before. This gives me an opportunity to talk
about what I expect and to praise good behavior while the consequences are
miner.

Now today my boys have been fighting all day, but a little while ago they
began playing in the water together outside. That is over, but now they are
doing different activities and not fighting. This may sound silly, but in a
little while I will call them all to the kitchen for a snack. Giving them
these little opportunities to be engaged for a short time with little
opportunity for fighting does help shape the behavior I want.


Jennifer
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jodie and Kahlan
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 3:33 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] fighting children

Jennifer, you said you don't try to get your kids to hold hands and 
work as a team if they're fighting all day. I'm asking this for future 
reference, in case we have another child and he or she and Kahlan 
fight, which I have no doubt will definitely happen. I was not an only 
child, smiles. I'd like to get your opinion, as well as the opinions of 
other parents. If your kids are fighting, wouldn't forcing, wel, maybe 
forcing isn't a good word to use in this situation. Wouldn't 
encouraging them to work together as a team change their focus and help 
to stop, or at least lessen, the fighting? My siblings and I were 
separated when we fought, so this was never tried with us.

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