[blparent] fighting children

[Robert Shelton]

Hi Jennifer.  Wise words.  Here are just a few more, from my son, Pete.  

We had four boys.  Mom's who deal with a house full of boys (and an only
slightly more mature Dad) deserve hazard pay, or a gold star in heaven.  

Rob (Oldest and Pete (#3) were fighting.  They were both big boys -- Pete
was about 6-4 at the time, and Rob only slightly smaller.  Fearing mayhem,
Mom, 5-6, got in between.  Peter stopped the whole mess and said "Just let
us settle this.  As long as you stand between us, we know we can keep
fighting.  On our own, we have to settle it."

Pete passed away 12 years ago last Friday.  

-----Original Message-----
From: Jennifer Jackson [mailto:jennifersjackson at att.net] 
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 3:47 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] fighting children

Jodie, you have a good point here. My comments were in reference to crossing
a busy street and that had to be the priority over other goals. See what I
mean about "it depends." :) Now on a long outing I might experiment with
having them hold hands for a street crossing with little to no traffic even
if they have been fighting before. This gives me an opportunity to talk
about what I expect and to praise good behavior while the consequences are
miner.

Now today my boys have been fighting all day, but a little while ago they
began playing in the water together outside. That is over, but now they are
doing different activities and not fighting. This may sound silly, but in a
little while I will call them all to the kitchen for a snack. Giving them
these little opportunities to be engaged for a short time with little
opportunity for fighting does help shape the behavior I want.


Jennifer
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jodie and Kahlan
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 3:33 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] fighting children

Jennifer, you said you don't try to get your kids to hold hands and work as
a team if they're fighting all day. I'm asking this for future reference, in
case we have another child and he or she and Kahlan fight, which I have no
doubt will definitely happen. I was not an only child, smiles. I'd like to
get your opinion, as well as the opinions of other parents. If your kids are
fighting, wouldn't forcing, wel, maybe forcing isn't a good word to use in
this situation. Wouldn't encouraging them to work together as a team change
their focus and help to stop, or at least lessen, the fighting? My siblings
and I were separated when we fought, so this was never tried with us.

--
Hugs from Jodie and kahlan

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