[blparent] fighting children

[Leanne Merren]

I think it's also important to try to figure out what is causing the 
fighting.  It may be that one child is tired and needs down time or even a 
nap; it could be that one of them is feeling very put out for some reason 
and it needs to be talked out; maybe it's just good old fashioned sibling 
rivalry.  But it's always good to ask yourself if you're noticing something 
that may be causing it before you come up with the best way to work toward a 
sollution.  Sharing fun activities can break up the tension and bring them 
back together, so that is often my choice.  But there are times when I know 
I could use some alone time, so I might recognize that need in my child as 
well.
Leanne

-----Original Message----- 
From: Melissa Ann Riccobono
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 5:16 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] fighting children

Hello Jodi,
I think this is a great theory, and might even work with some kids some of
the time.  I'm not in Jennifer's situation, but I believe asking my kids to
work as a team, when they have been fighting all day, at a busy street
crossing could possibly have disaster written all over it.  What if one
child won't listen and gets hurt?  I do think though that this might be able
to be tried at home with some type of activity that both kids could have fun
with.  Also, as a parent you have to learn to pick your battles.  Sometimes
kids just won't get along with each other for a period of time.  I have to
decide, as a parent, if it's better to try to force the issue, or if giving
them each some alone time will ultimately be the most productive thing to
do.
Just some thoughts.
Melissa

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jodie and Kahlan
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 4:33 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] fighting children

Jennifer, you said you don't try to get your kids to hold hands and work as
a team if they're fighting all day. I'm asking this for future reference, in
case we have another child and he or she and Kahlan fight, which I have no
doubt will definitely happen. I was not an only child, smiles. I'd like to
get your opinion, as well as the opinions of other parents. If your kids are
fighting, wouldn't forcing, wel, maybe forcing isn't a good word to use in
this situation. Wouldn't encouraging them to work together as a team change
their focus and help to stop, or at least lessen, the fighting? My siblings
and I were separated when we fought, so this was never tried with us.

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