[blparent] when children get hurt.

[Brandy W]

I have taken care of a lot of children from drama kings and queens to
children who would walk around with a bloody lip and make no fuss. What I do
is wait at first. When the child takes a tumble I wait to see how they react
before I react. If they fell down, but are fussing some I just say ut-o you
fell down nice and relaxed and happy. Usually the child gets up and keeps
going. If they don't I ask the child to come to me another way to assess how
bad the battle scars are, and if they don't come I go to them. I calmly
check all over and ask them to show me the owie as they like to do that
usually as early as 15 months or so. I then start at the head and work my
way down looking for extra wetness swelling etc. Kids were made with soft
bones and all of that so they could sustain all their battle wounds with
little harm. The other thing is kids have a completely different cry when
they are truly hurt. If you've never had to hear it be glad because it will
rip your heart in about a million pieces. Be where of breath holding that
usually means it is worse than you may think. If you can find me a kid under
12 who isn't broozed up with scratches and such I'd be amazed with the
toddler and preschool years being the worst.

Bran




"To learn to read is to light a fire; every syllable that is spelled out is
a spark." 
- Victor Hugo 

Brandy Wojcik  Discovery Toys Educational Consultant and Team leader
(512) 689-5045
www.playtoachieve.com
Follow me on Face Book at
http://www.facebook.com/PlayToAchieve.DiscoveryToys 

Read my new blog at www.playtoachieveballstobooks.wordpress.com

Looking forward to helping you with your educational toy needs!

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Shannan Zinck
Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 2:41 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] when children get hurt.

My son now 3 is also VERY dramatic. His moods change like the wind. I too
need to know for my own sanity wether he is really hurt or not. We always
just never made a big deal when he fell or bumped himself. I would sit him
down with me and hold his hands and tell him to squeeze my hands as a point
of contact, and to breathe deeply. Once calmed it gives the opportunity for
a good exam. If it's really serious calming for one thing will not happen no
matter how hard you try, Because we treated his little accidents as nothing
major when he was younger now we are able to know when he is really hurt
because he rarely reacts to the small things. He still freaks when he is
tired though and for that we came up with a nifty thing, When he couldn't
talk we got him to take our hand and put in on where he hurt and I'd blow on
it to make it feel better, blowing can bring some physical relief to a
bruise or small cut. Don't know why but it does, I even do this to myself
and it helps. Now that he can talk he tells us what happened without getting
upset because we were calm when he was little. We never got frustrated when
he paniced we just would talk to him calmly. One other thing we do is when
he falls or bangs himself and we are sure it's no big deal we just say
"shake it off" and he juggles around like a maniac which gets him laughing
and forgets about it. To date we've only had to use 2 bandaids and they were
for real cuts. For us converting the dramatic flare was beneficial. Instead
of freaking he shakes and jumps around. Still drama but it makes people
laugh and he LOVES to make people laugh. Suggestion use his personality and
help him channel the dramatic flare. Even if it's serious the worst thing a
parent can do is freak out with their child, they are looking to us to be
strong and calming, If we get upset with them it tends to make it worse. As
parents we are their rock. With small things when he was younger he never
really reacted but, now he gets silly. Works for us. LOL

--
Shannan Zinck
Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
_______________________________________________
blparent mailing list
blparent at nfbnet.org
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
blparent:
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/ballstobooks%40gmail.c
om