[blparent] when children get hurt.

Wed May 30 21:19:29 UTC 2012

I took my daughter to the pediatrician once after she'd done a face plant on 
the carpet from trying to stand on a rocking chair, which she'd been told 
and told not to do.  Anyway, I explained how she got the rug burn and bruise 
on her face, and the pediatrician said not to worry.  She said if she saw a 
kid with no bumps or bruises at all, she'd be concerned that the kid wasn't 
active enough.  She'd warn the parents against too much TV or video games.

Jo Elizabeth

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a 
song."  Maya Angelou

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From: "Brandy W" <ballstobooks at gmail.com>
Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 1:14 PM
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] when children get hurt.

> I have taken care of a lot of children from drama kings and queens to
> children who would walk around with a bloody lip and make no fuss. What I 
> do
> is wait at first. When the child takes a tumble I wait to see how they 
> react
> before I react. If they fell down, but are fussing some I just say ut-o 
> you
> fell down nice and relaxed and happy. Usually the child gets up and keeps
> going. If they don't I ask the child to come to me another way to assess 
> how
> bad the battle scars are, and if they don't come I go to them. I calmly
> check all over and ask them to show me the owie as they like to do that
> usually as early as 15 months or so. I then start at the head and work my
> way down looking for extra wetness swelling etc. Kids were made with soft
> bones and all of that so they could sustain all their battle wounds with
> little harm. The other thing is kids have a completely different cry when
> they are truly hurt. If you've never had to hear it be glad because it 
> will
> rip your heart in about a million pieces. Be where of breath holding that
> usually means it is worse than you may think. If you can find me a kid 
> under
> 12 who isn't broozed up with scratches and such I'd be amazed with the
> toddler and preschool years being the worst.
>
> Bran
>
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Shannan Zinck
> Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 2:41 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] when children get hurt.
>
> My son now 3 is also VERY dramatic. His moods change like the wind. I too
> need to know for my own sanity wether he is really hurt or not. We always
> just never made a big deal when he fell or bumped himself. I would sit him
> down with me and hold his hands and tell him to squeeze my hands as a 
> point
> of contact, and to breathe deeply. Once calmed it gives the opportunity 
> for
> a good exam. If it's really serious calming for one thing will not happen 
> no
> matter how hard you try, Because we treated his little accidents as 
> nothing
> major when he was younger now we are able to know when he is really hurt
> because he rarely reacts to the small things. He still freaks when he is
> tired though and for that we came up with a nifty thing, When he couldn't
> talk we got him to take our hand and put in on where he hurt and I'd blow 
> on
> it to make it feel better, blowing can bring some physical relief to a
> bruise or small cut. Don't know why but it does, I even do this to myself
> and it helps. Now that he can talk he tells us what happened without 
> getting
> upset because we were calm when he was little. We never got frustrated 
> when
> he paniced we just would talk to him calmly. One other thing we do is when
> he falls or bangs himself and we are sure it's no big deal we just say
> "shake it off" and he juggles around like a maniac which gets him laughing
> and forgets about it. To date we've only had to use 2 bandaids and they 
> were
> for real cuts. For us converting the dramatic flare was beneficial. 
> Instead
> of freaking he shakes and jumps around. Still drama but it makes people
> laugh and he LOVES to make people laugh. Suggestion use his personality 
> and
> help him channel the dramatic flare. Even if it's serious the worst thing 
> a
> parent can do is freak out with their child, they are looking to us to be
> strong and calming, If we get upset with them it tends to make it worse. 
> As
> parents we are their rock. With small things when he was younger he never
> really reacted but, now he gets silly. Works for us. LOL
>
> --
> Shannan Zinck
> Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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