[blparent] fighting children

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

Robert, I send you sympathy for the loss of your son.  I can't even imagine 
how hard that must be.  I'm glad you have humorous, joyful memories of him.


Jo Elizabeth

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a 
song."  Maya Angelou

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From: "Robert Shelton" <rshelton1 at gmail.com>
Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 8:40 PM
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] fighting children

> Hi Jennifer.  Wise words.  Here are just a few more, from my son, Pete.
>
> We had four boys.  Mom's who deal with a house full of boys (and an only
> slightly more mature Dad) deserve hazard pay, or a gold star in heaven.
>
> Rob (Oldest and Pete (#3) were fighting.  They were both big boys -- Pete
> was about 6-4 at the time, and Rob only slightly smaller.  Fearing mayhem,
> Mom, 5-6, got in between.  Peter stopped the whole mess and said "Just let
> us settle this.  As long as you stand between us, we know we can keep
> fighting.  On our own, we have to settle it."
>
> Pete passed away 12 years ago last Friday.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Jennifer Jackson [mailto:jennifersjackson at att.net]
> Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 3:47 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] fighting children
>
> Jodie, you have a good point here. My comments were in reference to 
> crossing
> a busy street and that had to be the priority over other goals. See what I
> mean about "it depends." :) Now on a long outing I might experiment with
> having them hold hands for a street crossing with little to no traffic 
> even
> if they have been fighting before. This gives me an opportunity to talk
> about what I expect and to praise good behavior while the consequences are
> miner.
>
> Now today my boys have been fighting all day, but a little while ago they
> began playing in the water together outside. That is over, but now they 
> are
> doing different activities and not fighting. This may sound silly, but in 
> a
> little while I will call them all to the kitchen for a snack. Giving them
> these little opportunities to be engaged for a short time with little
> opportunity for fighting does help shape the behavior I want.
>
>
> Jennifer
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Jodie and Kahlan
> Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 3:33 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] fighting children
>
> Jennifer, you said you don't try to get your kids to hold hands and work 
> as
> a team if they're fighting all day. I'm asking this for future reference, 
> in
> case we have another child and he or she and Kahlan fight, which I have no
> doubt will definitely happen. I was not an only child, smiles. I'd like to
> get your opinion, as well as the opinions of other parents. If your kids 
> are
> fighting, wouldn't forcing, wel, maybe forcing isn't a good word to use in
> this situation. Wouldn't encouraging them to work together as a team 
> change
> their focus and help to stop, or at least lessen, the fighting? My 
> siblings
> and I were separated when we fought, so this was never tried with us.
>
> --
> Hugs from Jodie and kahlan
>
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