[blparent] What's the right thing to do?

[Brandy Wojcik]

My church has yellow cards in every pew that say children are welcome in all worship services. Children are an intrical part of our worship and do what is necessary to fully participate in worship.

Children need to attend worship to know how to be quiet. They are a part of the experience. Jesus says "Let the Children come." 

No you were not wrong in anyway, and if she let the attending of a 4 year old go between her attending church than I'd say she has a lot of heart work to do.

Bran
 

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Saturday, November 10, 2012 10:51 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] What's the right thing to do?

Okay, here’s the thing.  We had really snowy weather today.  A friend offered to drive me to a potluck and church service that we had tonight.  But she said she wanted me to leave my daughter with her dad because the church service would be more peaceful without a four-year-old tagging along, which I must admit is true.  However, I had printed out a bunch of mazes for my daughter to do, and explained to her that she needed to be quiet in church, the same as on Sundays.  So I said no, I would prefer to take my daughter with me.  She wanted to go because she likes the music and the goodies that always come with potlucks, and I’d like to encourage her if she enjoys going to church.  Well, my friend started to argue very strongly against it.  So I told her it was fine, I would arrange another ride.  I felt it was fair for my friend to say she didn’t feel up to taking my little girl and me to church, but she crossed the line when she tried to make the decision that my daughter couldn’t come.  She got really angry, ended up screaming at me and hanging up the phone, and she didn’t go to the church service at all.  I’m really sorry it happened that way, but I don’t believe I went out of line by saying if she didn’t want to bring my child, I would find another way to get to the service.  I felt like my friend never would have said that to a sighted parent.

So, was I thinking right?  I got a ride from another church friend.  There were a couple of other kids there for my daughter to play with.  But I feel really bad about how things turned out.  Have any of you ever faced this as blind parents?

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
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