[blparent] What's the right thing to do?

[sharon howerton]

Jo Elizabeth,  is this the same friend that wouldn't let Sarah have cake at 
her house because she didn't eat her meal? The one that you said has been 
taking Sarah over from you since Sarah was a baby? I think I am remembering 
these incidents over the years. If I am remembering things correctly, you 
and she were fine until you had Sarah.
Sharon
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, November 10, 2012 9:51 PM
Subject: [blparent] What's the right thing to do?


> Okay, here’s the thing.  We had really snowy weather today.  A friend 
> offered to drive me to a potluck and church service that we had tonight. 
> But she said she wanted me to leave my daughter with her dad because the 
> church service would be more peaceful without a four-year-old tagging 
> along, which I must admit is true.  However, I had printed out a bunch of 
> mazes for my daughter to do, and explained to her that she needed to be 
> quiet in church, the same as on Sundays.  So I said no, I would prefer to 
> take my daughter with me.  She wanted to go because she likes the music 
> and the goodies that always come with potlucks, and I’d like to encourage 
> her if she enjoys going to church.  Well, my friend started to argue very 
> strongly against it.  So I told her it was fine, I would arrange another 
> ride.  I felt it was fair for my friend to say she didn’t feel up to 
> taking my little girl and me to church, but she crossed the line when she 
> tried to make the decision that my daughter couldn’t come.  She got really 
> angry, ended up screaming at me and hanging up the phone, and she didn’t 
> go to the church service at all.  I’m really sorry it happened that way, 
> but I don’t believe I went out of line by saying if she didn’t want to 
> bring my child, I would find another way to get to the service.  I felt 
> like my friend never would have said that to a sighted parent.
>
> So, was I thinking right?  I got a ride from another church friend.  There 
> were a couple of other kids there for my daughter to play with.  But I 
> feel really bad about how things turned out.  Have any of you ever faced 
> this as blind parents?
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
> kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
> evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
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