[blparent] What's the right thing to do?

[Dianna Alley]

I have seen that done to sighted people as well everything is not blind and 
sighted some people just do not wish to have kids with them everywhere.  I 
do not wish to be around those people because I have a kid and it is what it 
is.  I would have done the same thing you did.  My theory is if my kid can't 
go then I can't go.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, November 10, 2012 9:51 PM
Subject: [blparent] What's the right thing to do?


> Okay, here’s the thing.  We had really snowy weather today.  A friend 
> offered to drive me to a potluck and church service that we had tonight. 
> But she said she wanted me to leave my daughter with her dad because the 
> church service would be more peaceful without a four-year-old tagging 
> along, which I must admit is true.  However, I had printed out a bunch of 
> mazes for my daughter to do, and explained to her that she needed to be 
> quiet in church, the same as on Sundays.  So I said no, I would prefer to 
> take my daughter with me.  She wanted to go because she likes the music 
> and the goodies that always come with potlucks, and I’d like to encourage 
> her if she enjoys going to church.  Well, my friend started to argue very 
> strongly against it.  So I told her it was fine, I would arrange another 
> ride.  I felt it was fair for my friend to say she didn’t feel up to 
> taking my little girl and me to church, but she crossed the line when she 
> tried to make the decision that my daughter couldn’t come.  She got really 
> angry, ended up screaming at me and hanging up the phone, and she didn’t 
> go to the church service at all.  I’m really sorry it happened that way, 
> but I don’t believe I went out of line by saying if she didn’t want to 
> bring my child, I would find another way to get to the service.  I felt 
> like my friend never would have said that to a sighted parent.
>
> So, was I thinking right?  I got a ride from another church friend.  There 
> were a couple of other kids there for my daughter to play with.  But I 
> feel really bad about how things turned out.  Have any of you ever faced 
> this as blind parents?
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
> kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
> evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
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