[blparent] People holding my child

[Jennifer Jackson]

This is not just a blindness issue either. My mother took my niece's baby
outside with my niece calling after her that the baby was not to be out in
the sun. Now, I think it was probably even good for the little guy to be
outside for the five minute walk out to the car, but the point is that my
niece is the mom and her wishes should be followed. My mother insists that
she is the "matriarch" of the family and that my niece was wrong to protest
or be upset.

I had to have some confrontations with people about this too. I did find
that keeping the babies in carriers did help with people not just trying to
reach out and take one.


Jennifer
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo
Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Monday, November 12, 2012 1:44 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] People holding my child

I don't think you are overreacting.  Try telling your parents how you feel 
when you aren't upset or in the middle of the situation.  If that doesn't 
work, just say you're the mom, and if they want to hold your baby, that's 
fine, but they have to give him back to you and not to anybody else when 
they're done.




Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Shelby Young
Sent: Monday, November 12, 2012 12:38 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] People holding my child

Hello,

About a month ago, I was at church with my parents, sisters and son.  I went

to the bench where my family was sitting.  My mom says, "let me see Jaxcen."

I handed him to her, no big deal.  She had said this lady wanted to look at 
him and she was down by my mom.  This lady took him from my mom and walked 
off to go sit clear across the room.  I got angry.  My parents kept telling 
me it was ok because they new where he was.  It upset me so bad.  I was 
almost crying.  Fanilly after about ten minutes my mom went to get him.  I 
tried explaining how it made me feel but was told its ok she did that 
because she really likes me and him.  I don't care if she really likes us, 
its not ok with her taking my son.  A few weeks ago, I was nice and let this

same lady hold Jaxcen with me right by her.  She takes off down the hall 
with him.  He was crying because he didn't want her.  He's a big mama's boy.

I followed her as she kept walking away with my son.  She kept saying you 
don't need your mama, you don't need your mama.  I felt the same anger boil 
up inside me.  I tried explaining to my parents again how it made me feel, 
but they said the same thing.  How can I tell people no without being rood 
and feeling bad?  Did I over react by getting so upset?

Shelby
_______________________________________________
blparent mailing list
blparent at nfbnet.org
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for 
blparent:
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/jopinto%40msn.com 


_______________________________________________
blparent mailing list
blparent at nfbnet.org
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
blparent:
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/jennifersjackson%40att
.net