[blparent] how to handle a baby while you multi task

[hina altaf]

Hi everyone,
Thanks for the suggestions. they are great ones and I will surely use
them. my baby is six months old. I am in Rockford IL.

On 11/14/12, Tammy <tcl189 at rogers.com> wrote:
> Hi,
>
> We all make mistakes, and as long as your little one wasn't hurt it's okay.
>
> Being strapped into a carseat isn't a good option when your little one is
> old enough to be rolling over etc, why not put him in his crib?
>
> Tammy
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: hina altaf
> Sent: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 3:45 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] how to handle a baby while you multi task
>
> and also I do not like the car seats because my baby does not like to
> sit in them during the time we are at home and would like to move
> around and explore. yesterday my husband put him in the car seat and
> left. he asked me to watch him but I had to take care of something I
> was cooking and the baby fell on the hard wood floor. Then you know,
> the sighted people blame that it is the blind parent's fault. yes, I
> should have strapped him in, but we all make mistakes.
> hina.
>
> On 11/14/12, hina altaf <hinaaltaf1983 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> hi everyone,
>> Thanks for the advise on how to handle the baby. I liked your options
>> about a rug,  play pen, swing and jumping seat but these are things I
>> wish I could afford. My husband has other responsibilities as well and
>> he helps alot with the baby when I am at work. I am not a citizen, so
>> I can't afford the day care and i do not prefer to keep my child in
>> day care but when you are the only person running the household
>> financially, you have no choice but to work.
>> But I appreciate the suggestions in regards to handling the baby and
>> will see if I could get any of these items. but if anyone has any of
>> these things that they are no longer using them, I would appreciate
>> them.
>> Thanks.
>> Hina.
>>
>> On 11/14/12, Bernadetta <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net> wrote:
>>> Rebecca,
>>> Woe, aren't you overstepping the line here a little? Don't answer that;
>>> I don't think you'll agree that you are.
>>> But unless you know hina and hina's situation on a more personal level
>>> than the rest of us, who are you to make assumptions on her
>>> relationship with her husband? While you may have one valid point, that
>>> parents might find that spending time together with their baby is more
>>> enjoyable than separately, you went ahead and made a bunch of comments
>>> about being miserable, about separation, etc.
>>> Correct me if I'm wrong here, but Hina asked us for suggestions on how
>>> to handle her child when she needs to multitask. She didnt' ask for a
>>> marriage councelor. There's no reason to be sticking one's nose into
>>> someone else's marital life when they haven't asked anyone to do so.
>>> Perhaps you think you're being helpful, but in case you haven't
>>> considered this, not everyone can afford to have one parent stay at
>>> home from work. Also, not everyone can afford to invest in daycare. In
>>> this case, both parents have to work alternating schedules, and there
>>> may be no way around it. Some people don't have certain luxuries, no
>>> matter how much they can benefit from them.
>>> So unless you know something I dont' know, let's not pit a new mother
>>> against her husband and tell her what she should and shouldn't do about
>>> her marriage and lifestyle. Let's instead support her as a parent and
>>> if she asks us for advice on her relationships and how her free time
>>> should be spent, then we can perhaps dispense that sort of advice.
>>> My partner and I are lucky enough to both work from home, and so we do
>>> have that cherrished time with our baby together, but even partners who
>>> are both with the baby constantly have to alternate responsibilities.
>>> Sometimes I feel like we're doing shifts and we both have two other
>>> jobs in conjunction with our paying jobs; Our home and our baby. Often
>>> we can enjoy time together as a family, but sometimes our household
>>> runs more eficiently and smoothly when we take turns.
>>> So it's nice that you have this wonderfully idealistic view of how co
>>> parenting should work, but as we all know, being a parent is a tough
>>> job. And while we're on the topic of tough jobs, a marriage wouldn't be
>>> a genuine partnership without a few tough times now and then. Anyone
>>> who feels they might disagree with me, please feel free to do so, but
>>> every relationship, no matter how good it is, is a work in progress.
>>> Even the best of them have occasional kinks.
>>> Again, as I said previously, the nature of your last message suggests
>>> that you know more about hina's situation than the rest of us do. If
>>> that's true, then that's nice of you to offer her advice, but  if
>>> you're just assuming, well... you know the old saying. when you assume,
>>> you make an ass out of you and me.
>>> Had to put my two cents worth in.
>>> Rant over now.
>>> And I sincerely hope we haven't scared Hina off with our tendencies to
>>> get too personal on here.
>>>
>>> Bernadetta
>>>
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