[blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child

Mon Oct 22 14:49:22 UTC 2012

If your lawyer isn't helping you, you need another lawyer. He/she should be looking out for you. It almost sounds likee he/she is using "I am not a disability rights lawyer" as an excuse.

This is like any other service, if you aren't getting your needs met, find one who will.

A mediator probably isn't a good idea as by deffinition, you aand your ex have to get along to make th eprocess work. It doesn't sound like that's happening here.
Deffinately don't allow him to kick you out of the home or keep you away from your son.
You two seem to have a very rigid division of labor. I wonder why he always does wakeups and bed-time and you always help with homework? Your ex doesn't need to know Braille to do homework duty.
My daughter is sighted. I have no clue what printed letters look like. I can most deffinately help with homework. I can instill that school matters.  I can help with spelling.  I can show her tools so she can figure out the answers she needs.  I've shown her letters on the computer when she can't remember what a w looks like.
I do wonder why you two have such a lock on the tasks you assist your son with. If you can resolve that both of you are capable parents this will be easier for everybody. You don't have to like each other to do this.
Realize that you are as much an equal as your ex is. He's not the decider for anything.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jasmine
Sent: Saturday, October 20, 2012 4:16 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child

Hi Jeri,
Yes, my son Kristopyher is totally blind also. Yeah, my ex husband and
his parent's are trying to fight for custody of him and trying to take
my home away and leave me without a place to live. He's using the fact
that he does things for my son against me making it look like I can't do
those same things for him.
Virginia
On 10/20/2012 12:23 PM, Jeri Milton wrote:
>       Hi Virginia. Wow, that's ridiculous. This is coming from a man that
> you shared your life with? So, he knows you are totally capable, he's just
> trying to use your blindness against you. Is your son totally blind? You are
> the one who would be the best teacher for him. At least that's my opinion
> anyway. I do wish you luck and I think you've come to a great place for
> advice. People on this list probably can give you some great resources. I'll
> be thinking of you.
>
> Jeri
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jasmine
> Sent: Saturday, October 20, 2012 1:23 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child
>
> Hi Jeri,
> Yes, they are trying to use my blindness as if it would be a bad thing for
> me to have my son. His father put in his response that he only wants me to
> have him in the afternoons after school because I'm the one that helps him
> with his homework since I know Braille.
> He is stating that he wants him at night because he gets him ready for
> school and ready for bed.
> He doesn't believe that Ican do it by myself, but i'm capable of doing all
> that.
> He wants primary custody of him.
> Virginia
> On 10/19/2012 9:12 PM, Jeri Milton wrote:
>> Hi Virginia. I'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you. Are they
>> trying to use your blindness as if it would be a bad thing for you to
>> have your son? I'm no expert that's for sure, but I would think they
>> don't have a leg to stand on if that's what they're trying for. I have
>> my 8 year old niece and my brother temporarily living with me. When my
>> brother was fighting for custedy of her, her mother, who I had known
>> for years and years tried to use my blindness as a tool against my
>> brother. She wrote a letter to the courts stating that her daughter
>> would be living with her Aunt who had a serious disability and
>> therefore she was afraid for her safety. I was completely dumb founded
>> and rather P.O.d! Then, I had to laugh because the courts didn't even
>> bat an eye at her statements of concern. People amaze me sometimes.
>> Sometimes they'll stop at nothing. I knew this woman for at least
>> twenty years and even considered her a friend during my brothers time with
> her. I even watched her other kids! Jeesh! Good luck to you.
>> Jeri
>>
>> Jeri
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>> Jasmine
>> Sent: Friday, October 19, 2012 10:20 AM
>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: [blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child
>>
>> Hi Everyone,
>> My name is Virginia and I'm a blind mother in California of a 13 year
>> old boy who is also blind and learning disabled. I'm currently going
>> through a divorce, and my ex husband and his parent's are trying to
>> fight for primary custody of my son. Are there any laws or rights that
>> I can show them for disabled parent's? Is there anyone who can help me
>> fight for my rights? I've heard that the Nfb fights for custody cases
>> like this, so I was wondering if anyone in the Nfb can help me out? I
>> already have a lawyer to represent me, but she doesn't specialize in
> disability rights for blind parents rights.
>> Thanks!
>> Virginia
>>
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