[blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child

Dianna Alley dianna24 at earthlink.net
Mon Oct 22 15:44:00 UTC 2012 

I help my child as well.  I do have someone who helps with tracing letters 
since I have no clue how if some one knows how I can do this as a blind 
person let me know.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com>
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, October 22, 2012 9:49 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child


> If your lawyer isn't helping you, you need another lawyer. He/she should 
> be looking out for you. It almost sounds likee he/she is using "I am not a 
> disability rights lawyer" as an excuse.
>
> This is like any other service, if you aren't getting your needs met, find 
> one who will.
>
> A mediator probably isn't a good idea as by deffinition, you aand your ex 
> have to get along to make th eprocess work. It doesn't sound like that's 
> happening here.
> Deffinately don't allow him to kick you out of the home or keep you away 
> from your son.
> You two seem to have a very rigid division of labor. I wonder why he 
> always does wakeups and bed-time and you always help with homework? Your 
> ex doesn't need to know Braille to do homework duty.
> My daughter is sighted. I have no clue what printed letters look like. I 
> can most deffinately help with homework. I can instill that school 
> matters.  I can help with spelling.  I can show her tools so she can 
> figure out the answers she needs.  I've shown her letters on the computer 
> when she can't remember what a w looks like.
> I do wonder why you two have such a lock on the tasks you assist your son 
> with. If you can resolve that both of you are capable parents this will be 
> easier for everybody. You don't have to like each other to do this.
> Realize that you are as much an equal as your ex is. He's not the decider 
> for anything.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jasmine
> Sent: Saturday, October 20, 2012 4:16 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child
>
> Hi Jeri,
> Yes, my son Kristopyher is totally blind also. Yeah, my ex husband and
> his parent's are trying to fight for custody of him and trying to take
> my home away and leave me without a place to live. He's using the fact
> that he does things for my son against me making it look like I can't do
> those same things for him.
> Virginia
> On 10/20/2012 12:23 PM, Jeri Milton wrote:
>>       Hi Virginia. Wow, that's ridiculous. This is coming from a man that
>> you shared your life with? So, he knows you are totally capable, he's 
>> just
>> trying to use your blindness against you. Is your son totally blind? You 
>> are
>> the one who would be the best teacher for him. At least that's my opinion
>> anyway. I do wish you luck and I think you've come to a great place for
>> advice. People on this list probably can give you some great resources. 
>> I'll
>> be thinking of you.
>>
>> Jeri
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jasmine
>> Sent: Saturday, October 20, 2012 1:23 AM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child
>>
>> Hi Jeri,
>> Yes, they are trying to use my blindness as if it would be a bad thing 
>> for
>> me to have my son. His father put in his response that he only wants me 
>> to
>> have him in the afternoons after school because I'm the one that helps 
>> him
>> with his homework since I know Braille.
>> He is stating that he wants him at night because he gets him ready for
>> school and ready for bed.
>> He doesn't believe that Ican do it by myself, but i'm capable of doing 
>> all
>> that.
>> He wants primary custody of him.
>> Virginia
>> On 10/19/2012 9:12 PM, Jeri Milton wrote:
>>> Hi Virginia. I'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you. Are they
>>> trying to use your blindness as if it would be a bad thing for you to
>>> have your son? I'm no expert that's for sure, but I would think they
>>> don't have a leg to stand on if that's what they're trying for. I have
>>> my 8 year old niece and my brother temporarily living with me. When my
>>> brother was fighting for custedy of her, her mother, who I had known
>>> for years and years tried to use my blindness as a tool against my
>>> brother. She wrote a letter to the courts stating that her daughter
>>> would be living with her Aunt who had a serious disability and
>>> therefore she was afraid for her safety. I was completely dumb founded
>>> and rather P.O.d! Then, I had to laugh because the courts didn't even
>>> bat an eye at her statements of concern. People amaze me sometimes.
>>> Sometimes they'll stop at nothing. I knew this woman for at least
>>> twenty years and even considered her a friend during my brothers time 
>>> with
>> her. I even watched her other kids! Jeesh! Good luck to you.
>>> Jeri
>>>
>>> Jeri
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>> Jasmine
>>> Sent: Friday, October 19, 2012 10:20 AM
>>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>>> Subject: [blparent] blind parent's rights for custody of blind child
>>>
>>> Hi Everyone,
>>> My name is Virginia and I'm a blind mother in California of a 13 year
>>> old boy who is also blind and learning disabled. I'm currently going
>>> through a divorce, and my ex husband and his parent's are trying to
>>> fight for primary custody of my son. Are there any laws or rights that
>>> I can show them for disabled parent's? Is there anyone who can help me
>>> fight for my rights? I've heard that the Nfb fights for custody cases
>>> like this, so I was wondering if anyone in the Nfb can help me out? I
>>> already have a lawyer to represent me, but she doesn't specialize in
>> disability rights for blind parents rights.
>>> Thanks!
>>> Virginia
>>>
>>>
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