[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Kate McEachern]

Ok, this one is easy.  First a extra peace of cake doesn't cause damage to 
this woman's propperty, so it is up to you what your kid eats.  If your 
Daughter had an allergy to some sort of food and it was this woman's rule 
that she eat something she shouldn't have because that was her rule, you 
would be the one deeling with a sick kid.

I think if your Daughter had been swinging a bat at a windo then she would 
have the right to tell her something, but because it was food related and 
that's your call, she over stepped her place.  My Mom knows her plase she is 
Grandma and I make the rules.  And when my Daughter goes to Grandma's house 
I give Grandma my rules that I trust will be fallowed.

Hope this helps.
Katie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:14 PM
Subject: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?


>I know this may not sound blindness related, but it kind of is in a way 
>because my daughter’s adopted Nanna tends to take over a lot instead of 
>letting me be the mom.  She’s been there all of my daughter’s life, knitted 
>her a blanket, kept her overnight, all the things a grandma loves to do.  I 
>love her dearly.  But, frankly, she’s pushy.
>
> There was a situation that happened today while we were at her house for a 
> barbecue.  A bunch of us from church had contributed food.My daughter had 
> eaten a fairly balanced meal, so I wasn’t worried about her nutrition. 
> When it came time for dessert, she chose to have a piece of carrot cake, 
> which she promptly ate the frosting off of and then lost interest in.  Par 
> for the course.  Then she asked Nanna for some lemon cake.  Lots of us 
> were just having little smidges of each kind, so I was surprised when 
> Nanna said no, there was still cake on her plate.  I could see it if she 
> hadn’t eaten dinner first, but she had, so I thought that was ridiculous. 
> Trying to keep the mood light, I reached over and took the cake off my 
> daughter’s dish, then said, “Okay, tell Nanna your plate’s clean.”  Nanna 
> still refused to give her the lemon cake.  My daughter started to pitch a 
> fit in true four-year-old fashion, screeching and waving her arms around. 
> Nanna told her to go sit on the stairs till she was ready to be fit 
> company.  I said no, she’s my daughter and I’m in charge here.  Nanna told 
> me, raising her voice, that we were in her house, so her rules came first. 
> I said I didn’t appreciate her yelling at me, and that if she wouldn’t 
> serve my daughter a slice of lemon cake, I would do it myself.  I guess 
> Nanna’s husband had gotten his fill by that time because he cut my 
> daughter a slice of cake and gave it to her without saying anything.
>
> I know that situation should ideally not have happened in front of my 
> daughter, but it did.  I’m not looking for anybody to get on my case, but 
> I’m interested in some answers from other blind parents.  Whose rules 
> should have taken precedence?  Is there anything I can do about it now?
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
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