[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S]

you only get pushed around if you allow yourself. its still off topic.

Gabe Vega 
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On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:47 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:

> I respectfully disagree.  The situation could happen between non-blind parents, but I do sort of think it gets magnified by blindness because we as blind parents tend to get pushed around and railroaded more instead of being left alone to parent our children as we please.
> 
> Jo Elizabeth
> 
> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived and died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
> -----Original Message----- From: Kate McEachern
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> True its not.
> Katie
> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S" <theblindtech at gmail.com>
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> 
>> Oh, and by the way. This isn't blindness related. :-)
>> 
>> Gabe Vega
>> Sent from my iPhone
>> (623) 565-9357
>> 
>> On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:14 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
>> 
>>> I know this may not sound blindness related, but it kind of is in a way because my daughter’s adopted Nanna tends to take over a lot instead of letting me be the mom.  She’s been there all of my daughter’s life, knitted her a blanket, kept her overnight, all the things a grandma loves to do.  I love her dearly.  But, frankly, she’s pushy.
>>> 
>>> There was a situation that happened today while we were at her house for a barbecue.  A bunch of us from church had contributed food.My daughter had eaten a fairly balanced meal, so I wasn’t worried about her nutrition.  When it came time for dessert, she chose to have a piece of carrot cake, which she promptly ate the frosting off of and then lost interest in.  Par for the course.  Then she asked Nanna for some lemon cake.  Lots of us were just having little smidges of each kind, so I was surprised when Nanna said no, there was still cake on her plate.  I could see it if she hadn’t eaten dinner first, but she had, so I thought that was ridiculous.  Trying to keep the mood light, I reached over and took the cake off my daughter’s dish, then said, “Okay, tell Nanna your plate’s clean.”  Nanna still refused to give her the lemon cake.  My daughter started to pitch a fit in true four-year-old fashion, screeching and waving her arms around.  Nanna told her to go sit on the stairs till she was ready to be fit company.  I said no, she’s my daughter and I’m in charge here.  Nanna told me, raising her voice, that we were in her house, so her rules came first.  I said I didn’t appreciate her yelling at me, and that if she wouldn’t serve my daughter a slice of lemon cake, I would do it myself.  I guess Nanna’s husband had gotten his fill by that time because he cut my daughter a slice of cake and gave it to her without saying anything.
>>> 
>>> I know that situation should ideally not have happened in front of my daughter, but it did.  I’m not looking for anybody to get on my case, but I’m interested in some answers from other blind parents.  Whose rules should have taken precedence?  Is there anything I can do about it now?
>>> 
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>> 
>>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived and died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
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