[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Kate McEachern]

I think there is too much thought given to people's perseptions of a blind 
person's abilities.  I would rather be seen as a raging bitch then a door 
mat any day.  Because being bitchy is just part of life.  People will do 
what you alow them to do.  My Sister-in-law let my Mom parent and it bit her 
in the but years later.  Also for those who when it comes to parenting have 
too many cooks in the kitchen, your kids may decide not to listen to any one 
later because too many people are fighting to call the shots.  You have the 
right to be an ass when it comes to your kids.
Katie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Bernadetta Pracon" <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net>
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, September 03, 2012 12:44 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?


> Well, Gabe, with respect, it's not always that simple. You tend to see 
> things in black or white, figuratively speaking of course, but it's not 
> always that simple. People already tend to have their ignorant 
> misconceptions about blind people, even if they happen to have a blind 
> person in their family. So if you cause a scene around a bunch of people 
> who think they're right and your not not only will you be incompetent in 
> their eyes, but also a crazy jerk. I stand my ground regarding my son, but 
> there are limits. I don't want to come across as a rude, ass, or become a 
> recluse. I want to be treated with respect just like anyone else. There 
> are times when you can safely say "it's complicated" and no one knows the 
> ins and outs of a given situation without being in it themselves.
> Once again, I see how my peers and relatives who have brand new babies are 
> treated, even if they don't know the first thing about being a responsible 
> parent. They can do goodness knows what with their babies, and everyone 
> leaves them to it. When I attempt to parent my kid, all eyes are on me and 
> everyone jumps in with overhelpful intentions.  I am a competent parent 
> who doesn't let blindness become an obstacle in my parenting--other people 
> make it an issue, and that's where I run into problems. So clearly, that 
> is blindness related.
> Thanks
>
> Respectfully,
>
> Bernadetta
>
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