[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Jodie and Kahlan]

I'm sorry, but I have a real problem with some people telling others 
that something they do or don't do in a situation like this is simple. 
What may be simple for some may be hard for others. it depends on that 
person's experience, upbringing, culture and possibly other factors. I 
don't want to start anything here, and if someone wants to speak to me 
off list about it that's fine. I just want to voice my opinion that 
it's not fair to tell someone that something is simple just because you 
think it is. That person is not you and you don't know everything 
they've experienced or how they handle themselves in the real world, or 
if you do know them in the real world other than on email lists, you 
may not know how they handle themselves when you're not around. I feel 
it's very disrespectful to judge someone's actions when they ask for 
help, or advice. We all react differently to different situations. We 
all have different opinions and different experiences. I respecfully 
ask that we respect each other in general and stop calling names and 
insulting each other.

I know I'm not the list moderator and maybe I should have left this to 
them, and if I should have then one of them can tell me I've 
overstepped. But I am a list member and all disrespect, name calling 
and insults do is blow up the list traffic and take the focus away from 
the original subject. I know there's digest mode, but even then you 
have to wade through all the clutter of the insults and whatever to get 
to the valid points. I also know that I've gone off the subject, and I 
thought about changing the subject line, but since this is where it 
started, I thought it was logical to keep it here. As for whether or 
not it's off topic, there have been questions about computers and other 
topics here, so why are you harping on whether or not parenting rules 
and the way we handle people trying to take over your kid is off topic? 
Can we please have some perspective? OK, rant over. I probably was off 
topic, too, and I'm not asking if I am! Sorry. Shutting up now.

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Hugs from Jodie and kahlan
"Only a fool walks into the future backward."
Terry Goodkind