[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Steve Jacobson]

Gabe,

I'm not sure why this is off topic at least until we have explored whether it is related to being a blind parent.  I think this is a general parenting challenge, how to deal with grandparents, but sometimes a 
grandparent will try to take more control when it is a blind parent.  Unfortunately, though, the answers really do depend upon the individuals involved to a large degree.  Usually the problem is grandparents 
being more permissive than the parent, though.

Best regards,

Steve Jacobson
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On Sun, 2 Sep 2012 22:17:19 -0600, Jo Elizabeth Pinto wrote:

>you only get pushed around if you allow yourself. its still off topic.

>That's my point.  I was tired of Nanna trying to impose herself into my 
>relationship with my daughter.  I wasn't going to be pushed around.

>Grandma's house, grandma's rules. Yes I know she's your daughter, and if 
>this was another strangers house your rules would stand. But in a normal 
>house, with a grandma parent relationship grandmas house trumps all. It is 
>her house, her roles, sorry you feel that way. Now you may always choose 
>never to return to grandmas house, if you don't like the way grandma runs 
>her house. But again, that is up to you. But this situation is all about 
>respect, her grandma issued her decree, and you chose to try and overcome 
>per. This is very disrespectful no matter what culture you're in, this will 
>not stand in my house, and my daughters grandma would always overcut me as a 
>sign of respect. Right or wrong. So please, take it for what it is take your 
>losses and make a decision, you either like the other situations you have 
>been with grandma, and this is a small think you could get over. Or you 
>could choose to not like it, her, or any future situation, and just never 
>return to her house. Very simple, if you ask me.

>Thank you for your opinion.  I asked because I wanted an answer.  I will 
>consider what you said.  Maybe I was the one in the wrong; maybe I wasn't. 
>I didn't grow up in a normal family, so that I wouldn't know about.  But I 
>do still love Nanna, and I would never take her away from Sarah for 
>something so small as a disagreement over lemon cake.  That much I'm sure 
>of.

>Jo Elizabeth 


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