[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Kate McEachern]

My mane thing is I give my Mom my expectations of what I am cool with and 
what I am not but that is because of ishues that cause me to be more 
invalved in the Grand parent relationship.  When I was a kid my grand Mother 
was well, normel and what she said whent.  I wish my girls had that but I 
have to for the safty of my gtirls reffery.

But one thing is I don't argue with my Mom infrunt of my girls ever.  Do we 
get in to it when their not around you bet.  I think Moms and Daughters are 
just wired to but heads.

Katie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, September 03, 2012 12:17 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?


> you only get pushed around if you allow yourself. its still off topic.
>
> That's my point.  I was tired of Nanna trying to impose herself into my 
> relationship with my daughter.  I wasn't going to be pushed around.
>
> Grandma's house, grandma's rules. Yes I know she's your daughter, and if 
> this was another strangers house your rules would stand. But in a normal 
> house, with a grandma parent relationship grandmas house trumps all. It is 
> her house, her roles, sorry you feel that way. Now you may always choose 
> never to return to grandmas house, if you don't like the way grandma runs 
> her house. But again, that is up to you. But this situation is all about 
> respect, her grandma issued her decree, and you chose to try and overcome 
> per. This is very disrespectful no matter what culture you're in, this 
> will not stand in my house, and my daughters grandma would always overcut 
> me as a sign of respect. Right or wrong. So please, take it for what it is 
> take your losses and make a decision, you either like the other situations 
> you have been with grandma, and this is a small think you could get over. 
> Or you could choose to not like it, her, or any future situation, and just 
> never return to her house. Very simple, if you ask me.
>
> Thank you for your opinion.  I asked because I wanted an answer.  I will 
> consider what you said.  Maybe I was the one in the wrong; maybe I wasn't. 
> I didn't grow up in a normal family, so that I wouldn't know about.  But I 
> do still love Nanna, and I would never take her away from Sarah for 
> something so small as a disagreement over lemon cake.  That much I'm sure 
> of.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
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