[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

Tue Sep 4 00:04:44 UTC 2012

Oh wow, that's a totely different thing.  Now that could bight you in the 
but for real.  Good luck with that.
Katie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Kim Cruz" <autifroggie at comcast.net>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, September 03, 2012 7:57 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?


> I'm in the same situation.  My son's dad doesn't live with us.  He only 
> comes over on the wekends, sometimes.  Anywaywe don't live together 
> because we can not get along and work as a team.  He likes to communicate 
> in childish ways and I'm getting a little tired of it.
>
> So, I figure I'm going to do what is right for my son and forget what he 
> says or wants.
>
> Kim
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Robert Shelton" <rshelton1 at gmail.com>
> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, September 03, 2012 4:47 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>
>
>> My suggestion is that adults should not bother with advice or opinions 
>> from adults who are acting like children.  Just for what it's worth...
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto [mailto:jopinto at msn.com]
>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:31 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>
>> Now, stop!  I asked a question; I spoke to you respectfully and told you 
>> I would consider your opinion.  There's no reason to call me names, or to 
>> put down me or anybody else who uses this list.  That's uncalled for.  I 
>> cower from nothing.  Please, just lay off.  You've said your peace, thank 
>> you.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's 
>> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived 
>> and died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay 
>> Gould -----Original Message-----
>> From: Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 10:11 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>
>> grandmas house, grandmas rules. dont like it, dont go back. simple as 
>> that.
>> and its still off topic. and blindies only get mistreated if they allow 
>> it.
>> its funny how joe thinks she is a big barny tough girl on list, but in 
>> real life, she just like the rest who use this act. and cowars from 
>> confrontation because it on an email list and partially annonymous. :-)
>>
>> Gabe Vega
>> Sent from my iPhone
>> (623) 565-9357
>>
>> On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:55 PM, "Angie Matney" <angie.matney at gmail.com> 
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Actually, Gabe's text is at the bottom of the post. He said that
>>> grandma's rules should apply.
>>>
>>> Sorry, no one but me gets to decide what my kid eats, unless I'm not
>>> around and that person has responsibility for my child. It was very
>>> disrespectful of this woman to try to interpose herself in the
>>> parent-child relationship.
>>>
>>> And I do think this is blindness-related, because people tend to
>>> infantilize blind adults. I wonder if this woman would have done the
>>> same thing to a sighted parent.
>>>
>>> As for what you can do now, you could calmly explain to her that you
>>> make the rules for Sarah, and if she can respect that, then her
>>> informal grandmother-type relationship can continue.
>>>
>>> Best of luck.
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Kate McEachern"
>>> <kflsouth at gmail.com>
>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:37 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>>
>>>
>>>> Gabe nothing is written here.
>>>> Katie
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S"
>>>> <theblindtech at gmail.com>
>>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Cc: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:31 PM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> Gabe Vega
>>>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>>> (623) 565-9357
>>>>>
>>>>> On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:14 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> I know this may not sound blindness related, but it kind of is in a
>>>>>> way because my daughter’s adopted Nanna tends to take over a lot
>>>>>> instead of letting me be the mom.  She’s been there all of my
>>>>>> daughter’s life, knitted her a blanket, kept her overnight, all the
>>>>>> things a grandma loves to do.  I love her dearly.  But, frankly, she’s 
>>>>>> pushy.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> There was a situation that happened today while we were at her
>>>>>> house for a barbecue.  A bunch of us from church had contributed
>>>>>> food.My daughter had eaten a fairly balanced meal, so I wasn’t
>>>>>> worried about her nutrition.  When it came time for dessert, she
>>>>>> chose to have a piece of carrot cake, which she promptly ate the
>>>>>> frosting off of and then lost interest in.  Par for the course.
>>>>>> Then she asked Nanna for some lemon cake.  Lots of us were just
>>>>>> having little smidges of each kind, so I was surprised when Nanna
>>>>>> said no, there was still cake on her plate.  I could see it if she
>>>>>> hadn’t eaten dinner first, but she had, so I thought that was
>>>>>> ridiculous.  Trying to keep the mood light, I reached over and took
>>>>>> the cake off my daughter’s dish, then said, “Okay, tell Nanna your
>>>>>> plate’s clean.”  Nanna still refused to give her the lemon cake.
>>>>>> My daughter started to pitch a fit in true four-year-old fashion,
>>>>>> screeching and waving her arms around.  Nanna told her to go sit on 
>>>>>> the stairs till she was ready to be fit company.
>>>>>> I said no, she’s my daughter and I’m in charge here.  Nanna told
>>>>>> me, raising her voice, that we were in her house, so her rules came 
>>>>>> first.
>>>>>> I said I didn’t appreciate her yelling at me, and that if she
>>>>>> wouldn’t serve my daughter a slice of lemon cake, I would do it
>>>>>> myself.  I guess Nanna’s husband had gotten his fill by that time
>>>>>> because he cut my daughter a slice of cake and gave it to her without 
>>>>>> saying anything.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I know that situation should ideally not have happened in front of
>>>>>> my daughter, but it did.  I’m not looking for anybody to get on my
>>>>>> case, but I’m interested in some answers from other blind parents.
>>>>>> Whose rules should have taken precedence?  Is there anything I can
>>>>>> do about it now?
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of
>>>>>> Einstein's brain than in the near certainty that people of equal
>>>>>> talent have lived and died in cotton fields and
>>>>>> sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
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>>>>>> 40gmail.com Grandma's house, grandma's rules. Yes I know she's your
>>>>>> daughter, and if this was another strangers house your rules would
>>>>>> stand. But in a normal house, with a grandma parent relationship
>>>>>> grandmas house trumps all. It is her house, her roles, sorry you
>>>>>> feel that way. Now you may always choose never to return to
>>>>>> grandmas house, if you don't like the way grandma runs her house.
>>>>>> But again, that is up to you. But this situation is all about
>>>>>> respect, her grandma issued her decree, and you chose to try and
>>>>>> overcome per. This is very disrespectful no matter what culture
>>>>>> you're in, this will not stand in my house, and my daughters
>>>>>> grandma would always overcut me as a sign of respect. Right or
>>>>>> wrong. So please, take it for what it is take your losses and make
>>>>>> a decision, you either like the other situations you have been with
>>>>>> grandma, and this is a small think you could get over. Or you could
>>>>>> choose to not like it, her, or any future situation, and just never
>>>>>> return to her house. Very simple, if you ask me.
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