[blparent] "Just trust me"

Thu Apr 18 11:59:47 UTC 2013

Thanks for the last two comments, also...I seem to be having time on my hands to read and react...I have been in 2 airports since yesterday (midday), with 3 cancellations and now, a minimum of 3-4 hour flight delay...My iPad is my companion at this moment, as I am traveling alone.  (What an adventure.) I started out in Burlington. I am now in D. C. ... trying to get to Chicago.  I see on the radar map the nasty weather that is plaguing the central part of the nation.  I am on my way to a conference.  I have resigned to the fact that I am going to miss part of the conference.  I just hope that I am there before the day is over.  I am one if a few people who will be receiving a national leadership award... I am honored....but, at this moment, extremely exhausted, working on 3 hours of sleep....

Joanne

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On Apr 18, 2013, at 6:44 AM, Joanne Zucker <jezu36 at yahoo.com> wrote:

> Thank you all for your wisdom.  I look forward to others suggestions/comments.  I have had opportunity to sit and chat with my husband John.  He was understanding and apologetic, as usual.  I told him that there was a time and a place for his comment....not when it involves me having verbal descriptions of what is going on and what I need to do to help. Although I knew that dinner was just about ready, I had just gotten home a few minutes earlier from work and was in the process of switching gears to family mode...not quite with it all.
> 
> Thanks for the words of wisdom of using auditory and other sensory cues.  I do usually do this, but was out of sorts a little.  On the other hand, since my vision has deteriorated a little more, I DO need to work more on other sensory cues...especially listening to all the different noises in the environment....work in progress.
> 
> Thanks again.
> 
> Joanne
> 
> Sent from my iPad
> 
> On Apr 16, 2013, at 10:02 AM, Joanne Zucker <jezu36 at yahoo.com> wrote:
> 
>> The following is a little story about my husband, more than our children....but, one of our children was present and the others also observe how I function and "survive" in a sighted world....  
>> 
>> My husband, whom I love very much, has a famous line that he says....."just trust me". I really don't mind that he says this.  However, (I bet I know that you knew that this was coming...)
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>> However, as my vision has deteriorated some over the last 10+ years, "just trust me" doesn't cut it when it comes to safety issues....a little communication would be best, especially when there is a potential for danger and there is time to say something/be a little more descriptive. I think he is just being lazy.  
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>> Here was the situation... My 12 year old son was taking dinner out of the oven, that he had made, and my husband was handing me a hot pad for the table.  I couldn't see what he was holding and he was not forth coming with details as to what was transpiring, as I did not have any clues as to what he was getting at.  I asked what he wanted and he said, "Here, take this." I asked him what he needed. His reply, "Just trust me."  I was approaching him to find out...I still was unable to see what he wanted until he was getting short with me and I was finally able to see what my son was doing.  
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>> I explained to him that all he needed to say was, "Put the hot pad on the table."  I tried to explained how my vision impairs my ability to pick up on the visual clues of what is going on.  He still replied with, Just trust me."  He just did not understand my point of view.
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>> I left furious and offended that he didn't get it.  His little quote is just not acceptable at times.....I can understand when it is a serious safety....life/death concern....not when there was time to say 4 more words than his blanket statement.
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>> Anyways, just a little bit about me.....I was born legally blind due to congenital rubella, with a visually acuity fluctuating between 20/200-20/800.  And, now my visual acuity ranges between 20/2000 and20/2400.  I don't quite understand the significance/severity of the change because it was so gradual....but I do notice the difference when viewing things close up....It is definitely worse.....maybe the example above is showing me how my distance is getting worse....and how I need to share/explain this to my husband.
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>> I am open to suggestions....
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>> Thank you.
>> 
>> Joanne
>> 
>> Sent from my iPad
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