[blparent] "Just trust me"

Thu Apr 18 14:20:37 UTC 2013

Congratulations on your award, and I wish you easy travels for the rest of 
your trip!  It's crazy weather.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Joanne Zucker
Sent: Thursday, April 18, 2013 5:59 AM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: Re: [blparent] "Just trust me"

Thanks for the last two comments, also...I seem to be having time on my 
hands to read and react...I have been in 2 airports since yesterday 
(midday), with 3 cancellations and now, a minimum of 3-4 hour flight 
delay...My iPad is my companion at this moment, as I am traveling alone. 
(What an adventure.) I started out in Burlington. I am now in D. C. ... 
trying to get to Chicago.  I see on the radar map the nasty weather that is 
plaguing the central part of the nation.  I am on my way to a conference.  I 
have resigned to the fact that I am going to miss part of the conference.  I 
just hope that I am there before the day is over.  I am one if a few people 
who will be receiving a national leadership award... I am honored....but, at 
this moment, extremely exhausted, working on 3 hours of sleep....

Joanne

Sent from my iPad

On Apr 18, 2013, at 6:44 AM, Joanne Zucker <jezu36 at yahoo.com> wrote:

> Thank you all for your wisdom.  I look forward to others 
> suggestions/comments.  I have had opportunity to sit and chat with my 
> husband John.  He was understanding and apologetic, as usual.  I told him 
> that there was a time and a place for his comment....not when it involves 
> me having verbal descriptions of what is going on and what I need to do to 
> help. Although I knew that dinner was just about ready, I had just gotten 
> home a few minutes earlier from work and was in the process of switching 
> gears to family mode...not quite with it all.
>
> Thanks for the words of wisdom of using auditory and other sensory cues. 
> I do usually do this, but was out of sorts a little.  On the other hand, 
> since my vision has deteriorated a little more, I DO need to work more on 
> other sensory cues...especially listening to all the different noises in 
> the environment....work in progress.
>
> Thanks again.
>
> Joanne
>
> Sent from my iPad
>
> On Apr 16, 2013, at 10:02 AM, Joanne Zucker <jezu36 at yahoo.com> wrote:
>
>> The following is a little story about my husband, more than our 
>> children....but, one of our children was present and the others also 
>> observe how I function and "survive" in a sighted world....
>>
>> My husband, whom I love very much, has a famous line that he 
>> says....."just trust me". I really don't mind that he says this. 
>> However, (I bet I know that you knew that this was coming...)
>>
>> However, as my vision has deteriorated some over the last 10+ years, 
>> "just trust me" doesn't cut it when it comes to safety issues....a little 
>> communication would be best, especially when there is a potential for 
>> danger and there is time to say something/be a little more descriptive. I 
>> think he is just being lazy.
>>
>> Here was the situation... My 12 year old son was taking dinner out of the 
>> oven, that he had made, and my husband was handing me a hot pad for the 
>> table.  I couldn't see what he was holding and he was not forth coming 
>> with details as to what was transpiring, as I did not have any clues as 
>> to what he was getting at.  I asked what he wanted and he said, "Here, 
>> take this." I asked him what he needed. His reply, "Just trust me."  I 
>> was approaching him to find out...I still was unable to see what he 
>> wanted until he was getting short with me and I was finally able to see 
>> what my son was doing.
>>
>> I explained to him that all he needed to say was, "Put the hot pad on the 
>> table."  I tried to explained how my vision impairs my ability to pick up 
>> on the visual clues of what is going on.  He still replied with, Just 
>> trust me."  He just did not understand my point of view.
>>
>> I left furious and offended that he didn't get it.  His little quote is 
>> just not acceptable at times.....I can understand when it is a serious 
>> safety....life/death concern....not when there was time to say 4 more 
>> words than his blanket statement.
>>
>> Anyways, just a little bit about me.....I was born legally blind due to 
>> congenital rubella, with a visually acuity fluctuating between 
>> 20/200-20/800.  And, now my visual acuity ranges between 20/2000 
>> and20/2400.  I don't quite understand the significance/severity of the 
>> change because it was so gradual....but I do notice the difference when 
>> viewing things close up....It is definitely worse.....maybe the example 
>> above is showing me how my distance is getting worse....and how I need to 
>> share/explain this to my husband.
>>
>> I am open to suggestions....
>>
>> Thank you.
>>
>> Joanne
>>
>> Sent from my iPad
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