[blparent] update on our lives

[Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)]

Sounds like you're on the right track both in how you view this and in resolving it.
Your friends seem unkind. I agree with Jennifer, you don't need to share this piece of your life with them since they don't seem to grasp what you're telling them.

You did mention that they want your husband to "come out and play" a fair bit.  I'm wondering if this comment bothers you because there may be a grain of truth in it? Has your husband lost some of himself due to being a dad? If he has, you may want to encourage him to start doing something he used to enjoy or to do something he's been thinking about.
You should do the same.
As for sitters, I'd start mining folks that work with special needs kids and tell them your son is still in diapers due to medical issues. Your average high school kid may not be able to handle him, but the world is full of people who change nonstandard diapers. If their is a nursing home or a school that hosts special needs kids, consider advertising there.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Shannan Zinck
Sent: Sunday, February 03, 2013 4:08 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] update on our lives

Thanks guys. We are not going to force him. We are discussing a plan to
help him and came up with a few ides. I did tell him if he tries to poop in
the toilet we'd try to find him spiderman undies. He love spider man. He
does get really distracted so that doesn't help. I've had some terrifying
child hood experiences as well so was hesitant to begin with. It's not our
style anyway. We are in the process of helping him learn to clean himself
up. He changes his own pullup when he pees now and he can take a shower
mostly by himself now so We basically get him to do what he can do and help
with the rest. He in the last 2 days or so has been talking about toileting
more so thats good. My friends mean well but, their style does not fit our
family. They have a special needs son  and their experience with outside
help has not been the best so fear for my son may be part of their
reaction. Though part of their bad experience may have something to do what
the clash in styles of working with him. Myles is relatively where he
should be and doesn't need constant intervention so I feel that knowing
what I know about his birth I need to be more sensitive to his needs and
possible slowness in some areas. For some reason with potty training I
never clued in until now that since he is a tad slow in other physical
areas that it only stands to reason that he may be slow in this. Venting
helped me figure out some things.

Tammy I will be praying as well.

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Shannan Zinck
Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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