[blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

Tammy tcl189 at rogers.com
Mon Jan 28 21:03:37 UTC 2013 

Hi,

I'd agree with this if Jes had emailed and said "hey list What would you do 
in this situation," or "What should I do here," but she didn't!  She said 
this is my decision just to update you all, and I think what she's looking 
for is support not a bunch of questions after the fact.  Rebecca may not 
have meant to come across as judgmental but that's how it sounded to me, and 
I, like you, Am entitled to my opinion.

Tammy
-----Original Message----- 
From: Dianna Alley
Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 1:56 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

She did not judge her she asked her a question and I kind of wonder the same
thing and you are right we are not in the situation and thank god for those
that believe but when you decide to post on a list you are going to get
varying degrees of feedback and that is not judging.  If one does not wish
to get negative and positive feedback on what they are posting then they
either have to not post it or send it to those they wish to know off list.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 12:09 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee


> Hi,
>
> Rebecca, this is none of your business, and how dare you judge her!  This 
> decision is probably one of the hardest decision she's ever had to make 
> and you sit up there on your high horse and pretend you even have a clue 
> what you're talking about here?  You don't know what kind of hell she's 
> going through right now, and I'm thankful that you don't, but then how can 
> you judge?  Do you know how hard it is to have a nursery all set up for 
> your baby to come home to  and have them not able to sleep, eat and play 
> there because some organization says you're not good enough?  Do you know 
> how hard it is to have to see your child at appointed hours in someone 
> else's house and have your child look to someone else for necessities when 
> you know that should be you?  Do you know the constantt pressure that's 
> put on parents of children in foster care to give up their children and 
> how hard it is for those parents to fight to get their children back? 
> Finally, do you know the pain of giving up your children to that same 
> system knowing that you, as a parent will never be the same again?    I'm 
> not saying you have to support a decision like this one, but then why not 
> just not say anything?  Sorry all, but I'm sickened by the below!!!
>
> Tammy
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 9:56 AM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
> Yes, this also made me very sad.
> And, what about your daughter's father? He does have a say as this article 
> will demonstrate.
> http://gma.yahoo.com/sgt-reunited-baby-given-adoption-181449034--abc-news-topstories.html
>
> Also, do you have anybody in your corner? 16 months is a rough age for 
> many parents because your kid has the needs of a baby, but the mobility of 
> a big kid. Combine these two with absolutely no impulse control and you 
> can have moments that make you wonder why you ever thought a child was a 
> good idea. These moments should pass though.
> Have you spent enough time to know that you can care for your daughter 
> compitently?  Have you gotten your mental health checked? You've been on 
> this road for awhile, and you are giving up your rights at a difficult 
> time of year and at a difficult time in your child's development.  At 16 
> months, my daughter hadn't yet called me mommy. At 16 months, I was 
> convinced she was part cat, she only wanted me for food and when she 
> wanted something, not at all when I wanted to interact with her. By about 
> 2, that turned around. She was calling me Mommy. She began to share 
> interests with me. By 3, she was introducing me to her own interests. 
> Yesterday we went to a museum that bored me to tears as a kid. We had a 
> wonderful time together.
> You didn't ask, so I don't know why I'm sharing my oppinion.  It just 
> seems to be a short-sited decision with incomplete information. Also, you 
> didn't mention the father, and I had just seen the article I posted.  You 
> can do what you want, know that he also has the same right. If he hasn't 
> been given the oppertunity to make his wishes known, this ain't over yet.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gabe Vega 
> Via Iphone4S
> Sent: Sunday, January 27, 2013 11:26 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
>
> Wow, I'll be honest. I've almost been to this point. When I fought for my 
> daughter, the fight was overwhelming. I do understand, but I don't think 
> it would take something like this to ever make me reach a point. I support 
> your decision, and maybe it was a losing battle to begin with. I'm sorry, 
> I really am sorry.
> Gabe Vega
> Sent from my iPhone
> (623) 565-9357
>
> On Jan 27, 2013, at 9:05 AM, Jess  <ashleejessandmark2012 at gmail.com> 
> wrote:
>
>> Ashlee is now almost. Sixteen months. She crawling. She recently just 
>> started walking.  She's already showing interest in potty-training. I've 
>> made the decision to surrender my parental rights because I know that 
>> she's safe with the foster family. And,I just want all the court stuff to 
>> be done.
>> Sent from Samsung mobile
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