[blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

Dianna Alley dianna24 at earthlink.net
Mon Jan 28 21:36:12 UTC 2013 

How can we give support if we have no idea what is really going on?  I did 
not even know she had lost her child.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 3:03 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee


> Hi,
>
> I'd agree with this if Jes had emailed and said "hey list What would you 
> do in this situation," or "What should I do here," but she didn't!  She 
> said this is my decision just to update you all, and I think what she's 
> looking for is support not a bunch of questions after the fact.  Rebecca 
> may not have meant to come across as judgmental but that's how it sounded 
> to me, and I, like you, Am entitled to my opinion.
>
> Tammy
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Dianna Alley
> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 1:56 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
> She did not judge her she asked her a question and I kind of wonder the 
> same
> thing and you are right we are not in the situation and thank god for 
> those
> that believe but when you decide to post on a list you are going to get
> varying degrees of feedback and that is not judging.  If one does not wish
> to get negative and positive feedback on what they are posting then they
> either have to not post it or send it to those they wish to know off list.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 12:09 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
>
>> Hi,
>>
>> Rebecca, this is none of your business, and how dare you judge her!  This 
>> decision is probably one of the hardest decision she's ever had to make 
>> and you sit up there on your high horse and pretend you even have a clue 
>> what you're talking about here?  You don't know what kind of hell she's 
>> going through right now, and I'm thankful that you don't, but then how 
>> can you judge?  Do you know how hard it is to have a nursery all set up 
>> for your baby to come home to  and have them not able to sleep, eat and 
>> play there because some organization says you're not good enough?  Do you 
>> know how hard it is to have to see your child at appointed hours in 
>> someone else's house and have your child look to someone else for 
>> necessities when you know that should be you?  Do you know the constantt 
>> pressure that's put on parents of children in foster care to give up 
>> their children and how hard it is for those parents to fight to get their 
>> children back? Finally, do you know the pain of giving up your children 
>> to that same system knowing that you, as a parent will never be the same 
>> again?    I'm not saying you have to support a decision like this one, 
>> but then why not just not say anything?  Sorry all, but I'm sickened by 
>> the below!!!
>>
>> Tammy
>>
>> -----Original Message----- 
>> From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
>> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 9:56 AM
>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>>
>> Yes, this also made me very sad.
>> And, what about your daughter's father? He does have a say as this 
>> article will demonstrate.
>> http://gma.yahoo.com/sgt-reunited-baby-given-adoption-181449034--abc-news-topstories.html
>>
>> Also, do you have anybody in your corner? 16 months is a rough age for 
>> many parents because your kid has the needs of a baby, but the mobility 
>> of a big kid. Combine these two with absolutely no impulse control and 
>> you can have moments that make you wonder why you ever thought a child 
>> was a good idea. These moments should pass though.
>> Have you spent enough time to know that you can care for your daughter 
>> compitently?  Have you gotten your mental health checked? You've been on 
>> this road for awhile, and you are giving up your rights at a difficult 
>> time of year and at a difficult time in your child's development.  At 16 
>> months, my daughter hadn't yet called me mommy. At 16 months, I was 
>> convinced she was part cat, she only wanted me for food and when she 
>> wanted something, not at all when I wanted to interact with her. By about 
>> 2, that turned around. She was calling me Mommy. She began to share 
>> interests with me. By 3, she was introducing me to her own interests. 
>> Yesterday we went to a museum that bored me to tears as a kid. We had a 
>> wonderful time together.
>> You didn't ask, so I don't know why I'm sharing my oppinion.  It just 
>> seems to be a short-sited decision with incomplete information. Also, you 
>> didn't mention the father, and I had just seen the article I posted.  You 
>> can do what you want, know that he also has the same right. If he hasn't 
>> been given the oppertunity to make his wishes known, this ain't over yet.
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gabe 
>> Vega Via Iphone4S
>> Sent: Sunday, January 27, 2013 11:26 AM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>>
>>
>> Wow, I'll be honest. I've almost been to this point. When I fought for my 
>> daughter, the fight was overwhelming. I do understand, but I don't think 
>> it would take something like this to ever make me reach a point. I 
>> support your decision, and maybe it was a losing battle to begin with. 
>> I'm sorry, I really am sorry.
>> Gabe Vega
>> Sent from my iPhone
>> (623) 565-9357
>>
>> On Jan 27, 2013, at 9:05 AM, Jess  <ashleejessandmark2012 at gmail.com> 
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Ashlee is now almost. Sixteen months. She crawling. She recently just 
>>> started walking.  She's already showing interest in potty-training. I've 
>>> made the decision to surrender my parental rights because I know that 
>>> she's safe with the foster family. And,I just want all the court stuff 
>>> to be done.
>>> Sent from Samsung mobile
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