[blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

Dianna Alley dianna24 at earthlink.net
Mon Jan 28 23:17:50 UTC 2013 

well not exactly but she made it our business when she decided to tell us 
about it.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 3:51 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee


> Hi,
>
> The update clearly stated what was going on.  I'm surrendering my parental 
> rights, seems pretty clear to me.  How much more do we really need to 
> know? Is it any of our business?
>
> Tammy
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Dianna Alley
> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 4:36 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
> How can we give support if we have no idea what is really going on?  I did
> not even know she had lost her child.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 3:03 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
>
>> Hi,
>>
>> I'd agree with this if Jes had emailed and said "hey list What would you 
>> do in this situation," or "What should I do here," but she didn't!  She 
>> said this is my decision just to update you all, and I think what she's 
>> looking for is support not a bunch of questions after the fact.  Rebecca 
>> may not have meant to come across as judgmental but that's how it sounded 
>> to me, and I, like you, Am entitled to my opinion.
>>
>> Tammy
>> -----Original Message----- 
>> From: Dianna Alley
>> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 1:56 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>>
>> She did not judge her she asked her a question and I kind of wonder the 
>> same
>> thing and you are right we are not in the situation and thank god for 
>> those
>> that believe but when you decide to post on a list you are going to get
>> varying degrees of feedback and that is not judging.  If one does not 
>> wish
>> to get negative and positive feedback on what they are posting then they
>> either have to not post it or send it to those they wish to know off 
>> list.
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 12:09 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>>
>>
>>> Hi,
>>>
>>> Rebecca, this is none of your business, and how dare you judge her! 
>>> This decision is probably one of the hardest decision she's ever had to 
>>> make and you sit up there on your high horse and pretend you even have a 
>>> clue what you're talking about here?  You don't know what kind of hell 
>>> she's going through right now, and I'm thankful that you don't, but then 
>>> how can you judge?  Do you know how hard it is to have a nursery all set 
>>> up for your baby to come home to  and have them not able to sleep, eat 
>>> and play there because some organization says you're not good enough? 
>>> Do you know how hard it is to have to see your child at appointed hours 
>>> in someone else's house and have your child look to someone else for 
>>> necessities when you know that should be you?  Do you know the constantt 
>>> pressure that's put on parents of children in foster care to give up 
>>> their children and how hard it is for those parents to fight to get 
>>> their children back? Finally, do you know the pain of giving up your 
>>> children to that same system knowing that you, as a parent will never be 
>>> the same again?    I'm not saying you have to support a decision like 
>>> this one, but then why not just not say anything?  Sorry all, but I'm 
>>> sickened by the below!!!
>>>
>>> Tammy
>>>
>>> -----Original Message----- 
>>> From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
>>> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 9:56 AM
>>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>>>
>>> Yes, this also made me very sad.
>>> And, what about your daughter's father? He does have a say as this 
>>> article will demonstrate.
>>> http://gma.yahoo.com/sgt-reunited-baby-given-adoption-181449034--abc-news-topstories.html
>>>
>>> Also, do you have anybody in your corner? 16 months is a rough age for 
>>> many parents because your kid has the needs of a baby, but the mobility 
>>> of a big kid. Combine these two with absolutely no impulse control and 
>>> you can have moments that make you wonder why you ever thought a child 
>>> was a good idea. These moments should pass though.
>>> Have you spent enough time to know that you can care for your daughter 
>>> compitently?  Have you gotten your mental health checked? You've been on 
>>> this road for awhile, and you are giving up your rights at a difficult 
>>> time of year and at a difficult time in your child's development.  At 16 
>>> months, my daughter hadn't yet called me mommy. At 16 months, I was 
>>> convinced she was part cat, she only wanted me for food and when she 
>>> wanted something, not at all when I wanted to interact with her. By 
>>> about 2, that turned around. She was calling me Mommy. She began to 
>>> share interests with me. By 3, she was introducing me to her own 
>>> interests. Yesterday we went to a museum that bored me to tears as a 
>>> kid. We had a wonderful time together.
>>> You didn't ask, so I don't know why I'm sharing my oppinion.  It just 
>>> seems to be a short-sited decision with incomplete information. Also, 
>>> you didn't mention the father, and I had just seen the article I posted. 
>>> You can do what you want, know that he also has the same right. If he 
>>> hasn't been given the oppertunity to make his wishes known, this ain't 
>>> over yet.
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gabe 
>>> Vega Via Iphone4S
>>> Sent: Sunday, January 27, 2013 11:26 AM
>>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Cc: blparent at nfbnet.org
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>>>
>>>
>>> Wow, I'll be honest. I've almost been to this point. When I fought for 
>>> my daughter, the fight was overwhelming. I do understand, but I don't 
>>> think it would take something like this to ever make me reach a point. I 
>>> support your decision, and maybe it was a losing battle to begin with. 
>>> I'm sorry, I really am sorry.
>>> Gabe Vega
>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>> (623) 565-9357
>>>
>>> On Jan 27, 2013, at 9:05 AM, Jess  <ashleejessandmark2012 at gmail.com> 
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> Ashlee is now almost. Sixteen months. She crawling. She recently just 
>>>> started walking.  She's already showing interest in potty-training. 
>>>> I've made the decision to surrender my parental rights because I know 
>>>> that she's safe with the foster family. And,I just want all the court 
>>>> stuff to be done.
>>>> Sent from Samsung mobile
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