[blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

That I do agree with.  The possibilities of having a baby taken away, and 
getting strong-armed by the system, are scary for new parents.  However, 
every issue has two sides, and usually the truth is somewhere between the 
two.  For whatever reason that's none of our business, Jess has made her 
difficult decision.  Whether pressured by the system or not, she has done 
what she feels is best, and we have to honor that.  It might not be what we 
would do, but we don't know the whole story.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Tuesday, January 29, 2013 6:38 AM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

Here's the thing. Posts like Jessica's scare the hell out of new moms.
They may be isolated incidents, and there may be incomplete information, but 
that doesn't matter if it's you.
If I was a new mom, I'd be scared poopless reading Jessica's thread.  She 
didn't get to be the mom she wanted to be and everybody on the list is 
saying "the baby is better off, she's adjusted to the new family, she's 
doing the most unselfish thing ever"
Think about what that says to a new mom. You may be subject to extra 
scrutiny, your baby may be taken from you, and if that happens, nobody's got 
your back. These incidents are isolated, and the baby is better off. Do the 
unselfish thing and let another family raise your baby.  What a way to 
disempower parents.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Bernadetta
Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 9:38 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

I agree with Jody. For the new moms and the moms-to-be on here, I've
said it before and I'll reiterate it  more succinctly. People aren't
going to knock down your door and take your babies away because your
blind. There have been a few unfortunate incidents where children have
been taken for unjust reasons where blind parents are concerned, but
those have been isolated incidents and have mostly since been rectified
. CPS takes kids away when they feel the child is  being neglected or
if the parents demonstrate obvious signs of not being able to care for
the child properly. Let's also remember that in the cases of which we
may have heard children were sepearated from their parents, we may not
know the whole story. There are three sides to every  such story: The
parents' side, CPS's side and the truth. If you understand the basics
of childcare and you have a stable environment in which to raise  your
child, you should be perfectly alright.
Understand that though you may have CPS investigations a time or two,
braught on by general ignorance and concern from strangers over your
blindness in combination with parenting, you can prove your case quite
easily by showing the social workers etc. that your child is happy,
healthy and safe.
Relax ladies, and enjoy those baby months. They fly by way too fast, as
Jo Elizabeth said before.

Bernadetta

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