[blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee

[Jess Trask]

Hi Tammy,
Thanks so much. I know I've made the right decision and that Ashlee will be
very well taken care of. And, I will still be able to be involved in her
life.
Jess

On Tue, Jan 29, 2013 at 11:55 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) <
REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com> wrote:

> No, we don't. We can discuss it. We can speculate. We can do all this
> because she chose to post. Nobody made her do that.
> How useful is it to other parents or anybody googling this topic to see
> her post followed by a bunch of "You go girl" responses?
> Somebody reading this may not know that they can make a different choice
> should they be in that situation.
> We assume Jessica is ok with her decision, she may not be.
> She chose to post, and based on that, we can examine it if we'd like. We
> don't have to all think "What a good decision" especially knowing that
> these posts go to the great storage provider in the sky. It serves no
> purpose for anybody who may find this topic to think that Jessica's
> situation is right for anybody but her.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo
> Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:42 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
> That I do agree with.  The possibilities of having a baby taken away, and
> getting strong-armed by the system, are scary for new parents.  However,
> every issue has two sides, and usually the truth is somewhere between the
> two.  For whatever reason that's none of our business, Jess has made her
> difficult decision.  Whether pressured by the system or not, she has done
> what she feels is best, and we have to honor that.  It might not be what we
> would do, but we don't know the whole story.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
> kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
> evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
> Sent: Tuesday, January 29, 2013 6:38 AM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
> Here's the thing. Posts like Jessica's scare the hell out of new moms.
> They may be isolated incidents, and there may be incomplete information,
> but
> that doesn't matter if it's you.
> If I was a new mom, I'd be scared poopless reading Jessica's thread.  She
> didn't get to be the mom she wanted to be and everybody on the list is
> saying "the baby is better off, she's adjusted to the new family, she's
> doing the most unselfish thing ever"
> Think about what that says to a new mom. You may be subject to extra
> scrutiny, your baby may be taken from you, and if that happens, nobody's
> got
> your back. These incidents are isolated, and the baby is better off. Do the
> unselfish thing and let another family raise your baby.  What a way to
> disempower parents.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
> Bernadetta
> Sent: Monday, January 28, 2013 9:38 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Update on my daughter Ashlee
>
> I agree with Jody. For the new moms and the moms-to-be on here, I've
> said it before and I'll reiterate it  more succinctly. People aren't
> going to knock down your door and take your babies away because your
> blind. There have been a few unfortunate incidents where children have
> been taken for unjust reasons where blind parents are concerned, but
> those have been isolated incidents and have mostly since been rectified
> . CPS takes kids away when they feel the child is  being neglected or
> if the parents demonstrate obvious signs of not being able to care for
> the child properly. Let's also remember that in the cases of which we
> may have heard children were sepearated from their parents, we may not
> know the whole story. There are three sides to every  such story: The
> parents' side, CPS's side and the truth. If you understand the basics
> of childcare and you have a stable environment in which to raise  your
> child, you should be perfectly alright.
> Understand that though you may have CPS investigations a time or two,
> braught on by general ignorance and concern from strangers over your
> blindness in combination with parenting, you can prove your case quite
> easily by showing the social workers etc. that your child is happy,
> healthy and safe.
> Relax ladies, and enjoy those baby months. They fly by way too fast, as
> Jo Elizabeth said before.
>
> Bernadetta
>
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