[blparent] (no subject)

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

Shannon, say what you need to.  Most of us are here to be as supportive as 
we can be.  It's hard to have an older child who isn't toilet trained.  I 
took a very relaxed stance on the whole potty training thing and let my 
daughter go at her own pace, and she was three and a half before it clicked. 
When it did click, she was out of diapers and pull-ups in ten days, and no 
accidents day or night unless she was sick with diarrhea, which hardly 
counts.  But there were a lot of people pressuring me about why she wasn't 
trained at her age.  They didn't understand my approach, but it worked for 
me and my daughter.

Hang in there.  The colds and illness will pass, and life will look better. 
You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Shannan Zinck
Sent: Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:49 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] (no subject)

No I never said I was disgusted by my son's body. Perhaps I didn't explain
that very well. I don't even change him much due the the fact that I can't
bend much as it puts too much pressure on my sore eye. My husband changes
him unless he's not around then I do. I'm just frustrated because he's so
big and so much older and not trained. We do use blind techniques for
changing him.

The babysitter we have is actually trained to change seniors. Which given
her childish and skittish nature I find a bit disconcerting. I hope I never
end up in that nursing home. LOL

I'm just really stressed out right now and sometimes when your stressed out
things don't quite come out the way you plan them too.

We don't make much fuss about changing him except to comment when he gets
ticked off that if he'd use the toilet he wouldn't have to get changed
anymore. He only gets mad when he has to stop doing something interesting
to get cleaned up.

Honestly I think I'm just plain exhausted. Myles and I have both been sick
with colds and infections for over a month now as well. so I truly hope
nothing else happens. I know things could be much worse don't get me wrong
but, this is a ton of crap to muddle through all at once. I would never
intend to give the impression that I was disgusted with my son in any way.
I can understand why someone might think that but instead of taking a giant
leap in the conclusion department you might try asking questions to
determine whether that;s the case or not. I'm not offended in the least
but, I can foresee how jumping like that could really discourage someone
from sharing their heart on here for fear they might get their throat
ripped out. We're here to help each other with our kids. I know there was
no ill intent but, we should watch how we word things.
Just a thought. Anyway we've been through worse so I'm confident this will
pass as well.