[blparent] Been a while

Fri Jul 12 23:51:54 UTC 2013

A friend of mine met her husband on an online dating site. They've been
married for 6 years.  What works for one person may or may not work for
another. Nothing is black or white. When someone asks a question all we
can do is give support or share are own personal experience.Having said
this Rebecca I tend to agree with you about online sites and how they
make money. But they have worked for some people.
On Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:32:40 -0400
"Star Gazer" <pickrellrebecca at gmail.com> wrote:

> Online dating services make their money by keeping people in the dating
> pool. They really aren't in the business of finding lifetime partners
> because then people don't continue to use their sites. 
> People have a lot of societal options these days that didn't exist even
> forty years ago. I do think, given that biology isn't on the side of women,
> (our window in which to have children is relatively short) you can get to a
> point where you do need to approach like a course of study. Go where the
> people who want what you want are going to be. This applies to men too, but
> I think men and women want different things. 
> If anybody wants an interesting read, Lori Gotlieb goes into this quite a
> bit. For those that don't know, she had a child as a single mother by
> choice. She's written a lot about it, and one of the things she regrets is
> not marrying when she was younger 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Arielle
> Silverman
> Sent: Thursday, July 11, 2013 6:01 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Been a while
> 
> Meeting a life partner is not a simple thing. Not for blind people and not
> for sighted people either. It involves being in the same place at the same
> time as someone who you love and who loves you equally, and who wants the
> same things in life that you want. If it were easy, online dating sites
> would not exist or at least would not be as profitable and numerous as they
> are. I think finding a life partner is much more complicated than pursuing a
> course of study or a career, because meeting a life partner depends on both
> you and that other person. Add blindness into the equation and you will find
> that some sighted folks unfortunately won't consider you as a possible
> partner for them, so that limits your options. I am blessed to be in a
> wonderful relationship now, but before that I, like most people, struggled
> to find someone who I both wanted to be with and who also wanted to be with
> me. I completely agree that it is easiest to find a partner after you have
> become comfortable with yourself first.
> Best,
> Arielle
> 
> On 7/11/13, Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S <theblindtech at gmail.com> wrote:
> > Your email was good and all, but you wrote it to the wrong person. 
> > Kate did not write this comment, Rebecca did. And I repeated, go meet 
> > someone if you want someone. It's that easy.
> >
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> > On Jul 11, 2013, at 2:33 PM, Bridgit Pollpeter 
> > <bpollpeter at hotmail.com>
> > wrote:
> >
> >> Wow, I've seen some pretty ridiculous responses here, but this takes 
> >> the cake. What a stupid, careless thing to say. We all have a 
> >> personal journey in life, and we all encounter situations, like 
> >> meeting a life partner, in our own way in our own time. Excuse the 
> >> language, but to say, "go meet someone. It's like anything else you 
> >> want," is one of the most dumb-ass comments I've seen on here in a while.
> >>
> >> Sorry, Michelle, for such an insensitive comment.
> >>
> >> Bridgit
> >>
> >>
> >> Message: 8
> >> Date: Thu, 11 Jul 2013 11:36:39 -0700
> >> From: "Michelle Creedy " <michelle.creedy at gmail.com>
> >> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Been a while
> >> Message-ID: <01d301ce7e65$95ca41a0$c15ec4e0$@gmail.com>
> >> Content-Type: text/plain;    charset="us-ascii"
> >>
> >> Who said I'm not trying to do that? It's not black and white always. 
> >> Not the most empathetic response I'm afraid eh?
> >>
> >> Michelle
> >>
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star 
> >> Gazer
> >> Sent: Thursday, July 11, 2013 11:15 AM
> >> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Been a while
> >>
> >> So Michelle, go meet someone. It's like anything else you want.
> >>
> >>
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