[blparent] Been a while

[Star Gazer]

Online dating services make their money by keeping people in the dating
pool. They really aren't in the business of finding lifetime partners
because then people don't continue to use their sites. 
People have a lot of societal options these days that didn't exist even
forty years ago. I do think, given that biology isn't on the side of women,
(our window in which to have children is relatively short) you can get to a
point where you do need to approach like a course of study. Go where the
people who want what you want are going to be. This applies to men too, but
I think men and women want different things. 
If anybody wants an interesting read, Lori Gotlieb goes into this quite a
bit. For those that don't know, she had a child as a single mother by
choice. She's written a lot about it, and one of the things she regrets is
not marrying when she was younger 

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Arielle
Silverman
Sent: Thursday, July 11, 2013 6:01 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] Been a while

Meeting a life partner is not a simple thing. Not for blind people and not
for sighted people either. It involves being in the same place at the same
time as someone who you love and who loves you equally, and who wants the
same things in life that you want. If it were easy, online dating sites
would not exist or at least would not be as profitable and numerous as they
are. I think finding a life partner is much more complicated than pursuing a
course of study or a career, because meeting a life partner depends on both
you and that other person. Add blindness into the equation and you will find
that some sighted folks unfortunately won't consider you as a possible
partner for them, so that limits your options. I am blessed to be in a
wonderful relationship now, but before that I, like most people, struggled
to find someone who I both wanted to be with and who also wanted to be with
me. I completely agree that it is easiest to find a partner after you have
become comfortable with yourself first.
Best,
Arielle

On 7/11/13, Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S <theblindtech at gmail.com> wrote:
> Your email was good and all, but you wrote it to the wrong person. 
> Kate did not write this comment, Rebecca did. And I repeated, go meet 
> someone if you want someone. It's that easy.
>
> Gabe Vega
> Sent from my iPhone
> CEO
> Commtech LLC
> The leader of computer support, training and web development services
> Web: http://commtechusa.net
> Twitter: http://twitter.com/commtechllc
> Facebook: http://facebook.com/commtechllc
> Email: info at commtechusa.net
> Phone: (888) 351-5289 Ext. 710
> Fax: (480) 535-7649
>
> On Jul 11, 2013, at 2:33 PM, Bridgit Pollpeter 
> <bpollpeter at hotmail.com>
> wrote:
>
>> Wow, I've seen some pretty ridiculous responses here, but this takes 
>> the cake. What a stupid, careless thing to say. We all have a 
>> personal journey in life, and we all encounter situations, like 
>> meeting a life partner, in our own way in our own time. Excuse the 
>> language, but to say, "go meet someone. It's like anything else you 
>> want," is one of the most dumb-ass comments I've seen on here in a while.
>>
>> Sorry, Michelle, for such an insensitive comment.
>>
>> Bridgit
>>
>>
>> Message: 8
>> Date: Thu, 11 Jul 2013 11:36:39 -0700
>> From: "Michelle Creedy " <michelle.creedy at gmail.com>
>> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Been a while
>> Message-ID: <01d301ce7e65$95ca41a0$c15ec4e0$@gmail.com>
>> Content-Type: text/plain;    charset="us-ascii"
>>
>> Who said I'm not trying to do that? It's not black and white always. 
>> Not the most empathetic response I'm afraid eh?
>>
>> Michelle
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star 
>> Gazer
>> Sent: Thursday, July 11, 2013 11:15 AM
>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Been a while
>>
>> So Michelle, go meet someone. It's like anything else you want.
>>
>>
>> _______________________________________________
>> blparent mailing list
>> blparent at nfbnet.org
>> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
>> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
>> blparent:
>> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/theblindtech%40
>> gmail.com
>
> _______________________________________________
> blparent mailing list
> blparent at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blparent:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/arielle71%40gmai
> l.com
>

_______________________________________________
blparent mailing list
blparent at nfbnet.org
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blparent_nfbnet.org
To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
blparent:
http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blparent_nfbnet.org/pickrellrebecca%40gmai
l.com