[blparent] How do you all handle the issue of your kids not telling the truth?

[Veronica Smith]

I believe it has to do with blindness, maybe not entirely but absolutely.  He snuck it out because he knew she could not see it, but he knew his sister could.
Sneaking out is wrong, at any age and yes it has to be delt with.
Kids all do such things whether their parents can see or not, but in this case, he knew she couldn't and that's why he involved his little sister.
But she learned from his deviousness.
She needs to know, because mommy cannot see, it is very important to listen to her and do as she says, not as her older brother does.
Mom is law, dad is law, not her bigger brother and when she does wrong, she has to be punished.
Mom needs to tell her because she was sneaky and did the opposite of what she was told, mom cannot trust her and has to look at her feet, her hands, in her bag and now she has to regain that trust.  She is not too young to learn.
V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star Gazer
Sent: Friday, May 31, 2013 7:16 AM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] How do you all handle the issue of your kids not telling the truth?

The socks and shoes issue is separate from the kite issue. Do you understand this? Does she? 
Once you figure this out, you'll know what you need to do. My approach would be to do what you say you were going to do, check her feet or bag or whatever it is that she is leaving the house with. 
Her stepbrother is the one you need to be concerned about. He's lying and in addition, he's using his influence to get someone with less life experience to do things she is not comfortable with. He needs to know how very wrong this is. This really isn't about a kite. What does his dad say about this? And his mom? Are there any adults who grasp how serious this is? Do you? 
This has nothing to do with blindness. My concern is that your stepson has some real issues. Sarah is just being a little kid. If it wasn't about socks and shoes, she'd be doing this with some other thing. My solution with Sarah would be to remind her through actions that you know what is going on and be a bit more vigilant. Kids know who is paying attention and when, and they know that no adult can pay attention every single second. That's just part of life.   

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Thursday, May 30, 2013 9:50 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] How do you all handle the issue of your kids not telling the truth?

My five-year-old has fallen into a bit of a bad habit of telling lies lately.  None that are too serious yet, but unfortunately her big brother, my stepson, helped her figure out that she could sneak things past me.  I told them not to take a kite to the park with them that belonged to their dad, and he waltzed right out the door with that kite under my nose when I didn’t know about it.  My daughter ratted him out when they got home, and later she told me she was uncomfortable with what he had done but that she didn’t know what to do about it at the time.  I said she could tell me anything and that she needed to let me know if her brother was doing stuff that made her uncomfortable.  Since then, she’s started testing the waters, like today she told me she had her shoes and socks on when she went outside with her friends to ride bikes.  When she came back in, her dad was home, and he scolded her for running around outside barefoot.  So I found out she really hadn’t put on her shoes and socks.  I’m afraid she’s going to scrape her toes or step on something and cut her foot.  I said that since I couldn’t trust her to tell me the truth, I’d have to check her feet with my hands before I let her go outside anymore so I knew she would be safe.  But it got me to wondering how some of you other blind parents have handled the issue since I don’t want her thinking she can pull stuff over on me.  Thanks.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
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