[blparent] Seeking effective, yet positive ways to discipline children

[Star Gazer]

They are acting in ways that are appropriate for their ages. Take some
comfort in that. 
I think what you need to do is figure out when *your* trigger points are,
and avoid them as much as possible. 
Also, it's ok to let them know you're angry, kids need to know we're human
too. 
Kids worlds are pretty tiny so plant dirt and ice cream are huge to them.
Later on it will be friends and boys. 

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From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jennifer
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Sent: Friday, August 1, 2014 12:23 AM
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Subject: [blparent] Seeking effective, yet positive ways to discipline
children

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Hi, blind parents.

I hope this email finds you all well.

My husband and I are looking for effective ways to handle situations when
we're feeling challenged by our small children. We have two daughters, one
who's almost five and the other who turned two in April. They're wonderful.
I'd like to start a discussion about suggestions for being effective as
blind parents when we really need them to stop challenging behaviors. I'm
realizing how situational this is, now that I'm writing it. My point is that
without the benefit of really being able to establish good eye contact all
that well, we'd like to let them know to stop a particular behavior (dumping
the dirt out of a plant pot, for example, or throwing a tantrum because they
can't have ice cream exactly when they want it). In moments when we're not
too stressed, it's easy to come up with solutions, such as redirecting them
or taking a milder approach: "uh-oh, you dumped all that dirt out, so we'd
better put it back to let the plant grow." What other ways have you handled
situations, without being able to resort to scary looks? A nonverbal "stop"
gesture with a hand plus saying the word "stop" can also work, but what
else? I'd rather not resort to raising my voice, a method that seems
verbally abusive to me most of the time, unless the children's lives are in
danger or something.

What do other people think?

Jen

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