[blparent] use of equipment and devices for blind parrents

[Judy Jones]

Hi,

The unwind behavior pattern sounds so familiar, so true.  Parents know their 
children best, in spite of what friends or family think.

Our daughters were both so different.  The eldest was the giggly baby you 
could take anywhere, slept through the night after the first couple weeks, a 
very easy baby.

On the other hand, daughter 2 was just as lovable, but never slept through 
the night for the longest.  As a newborn, she would get over-stimulated in 
busy environments such as stores, noise of any kind, or groups of people, 
and start screaming.  I would have to go to a quiet place to calm her down, 
then she would be fine.  We called her our "high needs" baby.  Today she is 
a lovely independent 24-year-old, so being there for her when she was 
little, no matter how inconvenient, paid off.  I remember hearing that the 
more you cuddle and meet a baby's needs as they grow into toddlerhood, the 
more independent and self-directed they will be as children and adults, 
because they learn you are always there for them no matter when they cry, if 
they cry, whatever the need is, you pop up.  It's a lot of wear and tear on 
the parent, but definitely worth it when you see your adult children.

Judy

-----Original Message----- 
From: Star Gazer via blparent
Sent: Friday, August 29, 2014 2:37 PM
To: 'Jesper Holten' ; 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Cc: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] use of equipment and devices for blind parrents

Steve gave you excellent advice.
What sorts of physical changes are you thinking about? It's hard to answer
this question without knowing what you're thinking about.
Gather data from different sources, but also remember to use your own head
and heart and judgement. I thought of using slings with both my girls. When
they were born, I just couldn't. The inner voice we all have just told me
no. So I didn't use them. If you and your wife are ok with slings, then use
them.
You have common sense, intelligence and life experience. That doesn't go
away when you have a baby. You also have love, so you may do things that
make sense for your family. My older daughter needs to unwind when we come
home. The time of day doesn't matter, it could be 5 p.m. or it could be much
later. The wind-down process is the same, she needs to walk around, talk,
sometimes draw, and it's clear if you know her, she's getting ready for
sleep. It probablhy would look like a kid stalling about bedtime to anybody
but us, and I'm sure it sounds like that to some of you reading.
You'll get it all figured out I'm sure.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jesper
Holten via blparent
Sent: Tuesday, July 29, 2014 4:22 AM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] use of equipment and devices for blind parrents

Dear all.
I and my wife are expecting our baby in December and have started preparing
for the addition to our Family. We are both completely blind and we would
like to get input on what some of you have been buying, when it comes to
equipment and devices games, changes to the house etc?
1. We will be living in a house with a ground floor and a first floor
containing bedrooms and the master bathroom. And we plan to install a gate
at the staircase later when the Little one starts to move around on his own.
Changing dibers will most likely happen in the bathroom but what kind of
setup have you been using?
2. We are planning to use a baby carrier for longer transports maybe a
backpack. We are also consdering a baby sling but would like input on what
type. THere has been some concerns about the use of baby slings especially
for newborns, and we would like som input on this as well.
3. If you have ideas on any physical changes we should consider making or
ways to prepare for the baby all suggestions are welcome.

4. We will get consultancy from a professional at the Institute for the
Blind here in Denmark Here in Denmark there are a few totally blind couples
but we imagine that there are a larger Group in the US where both parrents
are blind.
Thank you in advance,
Best regards, Jesper

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