[blparent] child support

Fri Jan 10 16:49:41 UTC 2014

I don't think it has anything to do with intimidation. The mother of my oldest child has been ordered to pay child support for the past five years. I haven't received a dime. It's just not worth the trouble, I've gone from agency to agency here in Arizona and California, it doesn't make a difference. Sometimes it truly just isn't worth the time and effort. Especially when you know that it's not going to get paid, she's not to pay anything, and there's just not going to be any progress. It really isn't about bowling it's just sometimes there's no real legal requirement, even if they don't pay it, it just gets buildup in collections. And then there's a really big bill. After that Bill reaches a couple $10,000, then the court might want to issue of war, but even then. It takes years of bills being built up in order to reach that point. So I'm telling you from experience, as a man, sometimes it's easier for us to go hustle then deal with child support enforcement

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> On Jan 10, 2014, at 9:17 AM, "Star Gazer" <pickrellrebecca at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> If she was ordered to pay child support, then she has a legal obligation to
> do so. She can always go back to the court system and plead her case to
> them, but until then, she can't just tell you "I won't pay". 
> You need to know that you're legally entitled to child support based on what
> you've said here. You may not want to persue it. I would, because of the
> money, and because I wonder what else she'll do to intimidate you. Forcing
> her to do what the court has ordered will show her you aren't to be bullied,
> intimidated, what have you. 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jennifer
> Stewart Jackson
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 10:28 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] child support
> 
> Feel free to share here, though with the caveat that anything you put on
> line is really not very private anymore. So, do not write anything that you
> would not want a screen shot of being used in court or whatever. :)
> 
> I can promise you that many of us have shared some less than stellar things
> about ourselves and our families here. I doubt you can surprise us, but we
> are often quite blunt in sharing our responses.
> 
> 
> Jennifer
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Kimsan
> Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 6:00 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: [blparent] child support
> 
> I am not sure if one will view this as me being selfish or what the
> perception might be but here it is...
> My x-wife, when she left, her words were "I don't need a man, I don't need
> your money, I will do it all on my own."  However, things changed after the
> divorce was finalized, and she was ordered to pay me child support.  She
> told me, I will not send you the required monthly payment and I will only
> send money when the kids needed something.  With her new found love and
> life, I thought I was in the clear and I began rebuilding and now I am
> finally up to speed and the girls are emotionally stable.  It was a tough
> road but we gotter done.
>        I am entitled child support, but instead of dealing with her
> excuses, I thought the hell with it and I will hussle to make the money
> myself, which I have not had any issues for several months now.  Some
> excuses were,"if I have to pay $200 a month based on what I am making, I
> will not be able to support myself, or have money to go see the girls." 
> This is not me bashing, but my x is a mess, and with me living right across
> the street from her parents, great people by the way, but let's just say
> that the apple does not fall far from the tree.  A new development just
> occurred, and I have a new possible battle coming up within 24-hours.  I
> will not disclose the details, unless people want to know, and hey, based on
> the circumstances, the possible solutions might be helpful.  I'm real
> nervous right now...
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jennifer
> Stewart Jackson
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 2:57 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> I agree with Rebecca on this child support issue. There are things you will
> not be able to pay for otherwise and that is true of any parent. Believe me
> it was a big help when my kids Dad came up with the $500 we plopped down at
> the beginning of this wrestling season, and wrestling is one of the cheaper
> activities. Gymnastics or dance will run about $100 a month per kid and
> musical instruments are not cheap. . Your daughters are going to have more
> expenses as they age and their mother owes them these opportunities.
> 
> I do not want to pry into your family business, so please just consider what
> I am about to ad and do not feel you have to share details with us. I know
> that sometimes a parent gives up pursuing child support to protect a child
> or children from a bad situation with the other parent. Perhaps involving
> drugs or some other abuse. That is completely different and obviously more
> important than the reasons I gave for pursuing child support.
> 
> 
> 
> Jennifer
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star Gazer
> Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 4:01 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> Really, I'd get child support (unless you are trying to avoid paying it??)
> as it's to bennifit your children. You're legally entitled to it and unless
> all you'd be getting $10 a month or so, it would help your budget.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Kimsan
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 2:42 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> Yes, we have the city bus, the door-to-door service, but they are not the
> greatest as they have gotten me to appointments late more than once.
> The cab, there is a 15 dollar boarding fee and I can't remember how much it
> would've been per-mile.  In short, nothing I could've make fit in my budget.
> I'm trying to stay away from child support as that will open up a whole new
> can of worms lol, and I hate worms..
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo
> Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 11:34 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> Do you have paratransit?  How expensive are cabs, just for rainy days?
> 
> 
> 
> 
> Jo Elizabeth
> 
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> kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
> evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Kimsan
> Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 12:07 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> No worries. I didn't think you were trying to betlittle me.
> I should've chosen my words carefully, what I tried to say was that I am not
> the only blind person experiencing what I went through and am currently
> going through.
> As I write this, I am in the process in making calls to see about what "good
> survices" there are here for the blind. Public transportation sucks and with
> my busy schedule, I need to figure out how to make things happen.
> My main issue is transportation and the ability to get from one place to
> another in a timely manner.  Yes, we can debate about taking the buss, but
> time isn't in my favor lol.
> For example, I get off of work at 2:30, dr appointment is at 3:20, it takes
> me about 30-minutes to walk from my job to their school, then another
> 20-minutes to 30-minutes to get to the doctor's office.  Plus, mother nature
> is not in a good mood today, but I will make it happen! I was single before
> and made it lol.
> 
> 
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