[blparent] child support

Jennifer Stewart Jackson jennifersjackson at att.net
Sat Jan 11 02:44:00 UTC 2014 

I am telling you as a woman, that deadbeat parents just do not pay and it is
the same problem to collect whatever the sex of the other parent.


Jennifer


-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gabe Vega -
CEO Commtech LLC
Sent: Friday, January 10, 2014 10:50 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] child support

I don't think it has anything to do with intimidation. The mother of my
oldest child has been ordered to pay child support for the past five years.
I haven't received a dime. It's just not worth the trouble, I've gone from
agency to agency here in Arizona and California, it doesn't make a
difference. Sometimes it truly just isn't worth the time and effort.
Especially when you know that it's not going to get paid, she's not to pay
anything, and there's just not going to be any progress. It really isn't
about bowling it's just sometimes there's no real legal requirement, even if
they don't pay it, it just gets buildup in collections. And then there's a
really big bill. After that Bill reaches a couple $10,000, then the court
might want to issue of war, but even then. It takes years of bills being
built up in order to reach that point. So I'm telling you from experience,
as a man, sometimes it's easier for us to go hustle then deal with child
support enforcement

Gabe Vega  - CEO
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> On Jan 10, 2014, at 9:17 AM, "Star Gazer" <pickrellrebecca at gmail.com>
wrote:
> 
> If she was ordered to pay child support, then she has a legal 
> obligation to do so. She can always go back to the court system and 
> plead her case to them, but until then, she can't just tell you "I won't
pay".
> You need to know that you're legally entitled to child support based 
> on what you've said here. You may not want to persue it. I would, 
> because of the money, and because I wonder what else she'll do to 
> intimidate you. Forcing her to do what the court has ordered will show 
> her you aren't to be bullied, intimidated, what have you.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of 
> Jennifer Stewart Jackson
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 10:28 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] child support
> 
> Feel free to share here, though with the caveat that anything you put 
> on line is really not very private anymore. So, do not write anything 
> that you would not want a screen shot of being used in court or 
> whatever. :)
> 
> I can promise you that many of us have shared some less than stellar 
> things about ourselves and our families here. I doubt you can surprise 
> us, but we are often quite blunt in sharing our responses.
> 
> 
> Jennifer
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of 
> Kimsan
> Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 6:00 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: [blparent] child support
> 
> I am not sure if one will view this as me being selfish or what the 
> perception might be but here it is...
> My x-wife, when she left, her words were "I don't need a man, I don't 
> need your money, I will do it all on my own."  However, things changed 
> after the divorce was finalized, and she was ordered to pay me child 
> support.  She told me, I will not send you the required monthly 
> payment and I will only send money when the kids needed something.  
> With her new found love and life, I thought I was in the clear and I 
> began rebuilding and now I am finally up to speed and the girls are 
> emotionally stable.  It was a tough road but we gotter done.
>        I am entitled child support, but instead of dealing with her 
> excuses, I thought the hell with it and I will hussle to make the 
> money myself, which I have not had any issues for several months now.  
> Some excuses were,"if I have to pay $200 a month based on what I am 
> making, I will not be able to support myself, or have money to go see the
girls."
> This is not me bashing, but my x is a mess, and with me living right 
> across the street from her parents, great people by the way, but let's 
> just say that the apple does not fall far from the tree.  A new 
> development just occurred, and I have a new possible battle coming up 
> within 24-hours.  I will not disclose the details, unless people want 
> to know, and hey, based on the circumstances, the possible solutions 
> might be helpful.  I'm real nervous right now...
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of 
> Jennifer Stewart Jackson
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 2:57 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> I agree with Rebecca on this child support issue. There are things you 
> will not be able to pay for otherwise and that is true of any parent. 
> Believe me it was a big help when my kids Dad came up with the $500 we 
> plopped down at the beginning of this wrestling season, and wrestling 
> is one of the cheaper activities. Gymnastics or dance will run about 
> $100 a month per kid and musical instruments are not cheap. . Your 
> daughters are going to have more expenses as they age and their mother
owes them these opportunities.
> 
> I do not want to pry into your family business, so please just 
> consider what I am about to ad and do not feel you have to share 
> details with us. I know that sometimes a parent gives up pursuing 
> child support to protect a child or children from a bad situation with 
> the other parent. Perhaps involving drugs or some other abuse. That is 
> completely different and obviously more important than the reasons I gave
for pursuing child support.
> 
> 
> 
> Jennifer
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Star 
> Gazer
> Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 4:01 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> Really, I'd get child support (unless you are trying to avoid paying 
> it??) as it's to bennifit your children. You're legally entitled to it 
> and unless all you'd be getting $10 a month or so, it would help your
budget.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of 
> Kimsan
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 2:42 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> Yes, we have the city bus, the door-to-door service, but they are not 
> the greatest as they have gotten me to appointments late more than once.
> The cab, there is a 15 dollar boarding fee and I can't remember how 
> much it would've been per-mile.  In short, nothing I could've make fit in
my budget.
> I'm trying to stay away from child support as that will open up a 
> whole new can of worms lol, and I hate worms..
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo 
> Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Thursday, January 9, 2014 11:34 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> Do you have paratransit?  How expensive are cabs, just for rainy days?
> 
> 
> 
> 
> Jo Elizabeth
> 
> Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you 
> may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and 
> full at evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Kimsan
> Sent: Thursday, January 09, 2014 12:07 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] blindparent REparents just don't understand
> 
> No worries. I didn't think you were trying to betlittle me.
> I should've chosen my words carefully, what I tried to say was that I 
> am not the only blind person experiencing what I went through and am 
> currently going through.
> As I write this, I am in the process in making calls to see about what 
> "good survices" there are here for the blind. Public transportation 
> sucks and with my busy schedule, I need to figure out how to make things
happen.
> My main issue is transportation and the ability to get from one place 
> to another in a timely manner.  Yes, we can debate about taking the 
> buss, but time isn't in my favor lol.
> For example, I get off of work at 2:30, dr appointment is at 3:20, it 
> takes me about 30-minutes to walk from my job to their school, then 
> another 20-minutes to 30-minutes to get to the doctor's office.  Plus, 
> mother nature is not in a good mood today, but I will make it happen! 
> I was single before and made it lol.
> 
> 
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