[blparent] Baby on the Way! Now, Where to Live?

[mr. Chikodinaka Oguledo]

hello congradudations!  or congradulations. to u lady! I am still in
the process of my wife having our first Child. her Name is. Obianuju
Sarah. Oguledo! is there any hope? Obianuju Sarah is a good name?

On 7/24/15, Mark Feliz via blparent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> Congratulations Allison and Darrell, this is so cool. I am very happy
> for the both of you. I can not add much more to what has already been
> said. My wife workednights when our kids were young so I had them
> alone most of the day while she slept. I think you will need to factor
> in the cost for transportation into your budget. Since you will not
> probably own a car just think of it as a car payment. I was not near a
> convenient bus stop but doable. I used a combination of bus, ara, and
> cab. With the invent of Uber this will be easy. I also paid friends on
> occasion when necessary. As mentioned don't worry about how you are
> going to manage kid, cane, diaper bag... It always works. I would wait
> to purchase a house till your child is school ready. You never know
> what will happen with school districts and neighborhoods.
>
> Call me if you have questions anytime.
>
> Mark F East valley Chapter.
>
> On 7/24/15, Briley O'Connor via blparent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> I forgot to mention, just for your reference, we pay our driver $10 an
>> hour
>> plus $.57 per mile.  For our particular needs, we use them approximately
>> 10
>> to 15 hours a week. It really depends, but it is somewhere in the
>> neighborhood of about $200 a month. That sounds like a lot, but
>> considering
>> we do not have a car payment for car insurance, it is really a steal.
>> Being
>> independent does not always mean meeting access to public transportation.
>> It is more about what independence looks like for you.
>>
>> Sent from my iPhone
>>
>>> On Jul 23, 2015, at 9:01 PM, Judy Jones via blparent
>>> <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> I can't say enough about the ability to get where you want to go, when
>>> you
>>> need to go, whether you take a vehicle or walk, as long as you can
>>> conveniently get where you want to go.  I can speak to this, as my
>>> husband
>>> and I, too, are both blind.
>>>
>>> And this need for freedom of mobility is even more important when you do
>>> have kids.
>>>
>>> The house might be a really good thing, give you room to grow, and a
>>> quieter place of your own.  But:  the one bus stop.  is it easily get
>>> tooable?  Does it run often enough so you can take it when you need it
>>> and
>>> does it connect to most of the places you know and frequent.  What you
>>> don't want is to become a prisoner in a beautiful ideal castle.
>>>
>>> You will want to be within easy walking distance of stores and schools,
>>> and to make sure you can get to a doctor's office as you need it.
>>> Imagine
>>> yourself being the independent parent you need to be and should be,
>>> taking
>>> your child where they need to be and when they need to be there, and
>>> think
>>> through how you will get that done.  Granted, it is nice when the kiddos
>>> can get rides from other sighted parents, but do not depend on that.
>>> Always have an independent backup, otherwise you will be at the mercy of
>>> someone else's schedule.
>>>
>>> You'll find it easier to maybe live in a smaller place but with great
>>> transportation, which can give you the mobility you want.  If your
>>> suburban house has good transportation options, go for it, at least
>>> check
>>> it out. Ask about the neighborhood if you haven't already done so.  If
>>> you
>>> are buying, you will have to envision the big picture, years down the
>>> road, will the area stay quiet, or are they about to make your street a
>>> main artery with busy traffic?
>>>
>>> About modes of travel with Baby.  Whatever is the easiest and cost
>>> effective for you.  Take cues from your baby.  If a noisy bus bothers
>>> them, maybe at first, a cab would be easy.  However, there are babies
>>> that
>>> do just fine with noise, while others get over-stimulated and upset.
>>>
>>> How long of a walk is too long?  Take the cues from your child.  Start
>>> out
>>> with short walks, then you can always lengthen them.
>>>
>>> I had to chuckle at your question about juggling baby and cane on
>>> stairs,
>>> making one crazy.  When all is said and done, you will be amazed at what
>>> you manage to juggle, how you do it.  These are things you grow into,
>>> just
>>> as your baby is growing, along with your relationship.  You will end up
>>> juggling much more and definitely in crazy situations, but more than
>>> likely love every minute of it, because it's really all about your
>>> child.
>>>
>>> Revisiting the house thing again.  If you are renting, you may or may
>>> not
>>> plan to stay in that house for very long if you plan to buy in future.
>>> But if you are buying, you will definitely want to imagine yourselves
>>> living in the area for years, seeing your child grow up there, know what
>>> you can walk to and how you can get there.  Pay close attention to the
>>> intersections you will have to cross and do a walk-through before making
>>> an offer.
>>>
>>> A nightmare scenario that happened to us, and this was before kids.  My
>>> husband and I worked in Orlando, and we found the perfect house, perfect
>>> price, in Winter Park.  We had driven around the neighborhood with our
>>> realtor, and she had explained we were close to a bus stop at a lighted
>>> intersection.  There was also a convenience store there at that
>>> intersection, and she said there was a double set of lights, but they
>>> were
>>> regular traffic lights.  We should have caught on then what we were
>>> getting into, but we didn't.
>>>
>>> We decided to put an offer, it was accepted, and she drove us over to
>>> the
>>> house the evening before the closing to answer a few of our last minute
>>> questions.
>>>
>>> We decided to actually walk through the intersection where we would need
>>> to catch our bus.  Horror of horrors, the intersection had a double set
>>> of
>>> lights, because it is offset.  In other words, you would start to cross
>>> at
>>> one corner but needed to jog left several yards to reach the opposite
>>> corner.  In the middle of this so-called jog on the other side of the
>>> street is the convenience store parking lot.  So:  We would have no way
>>> to
>>> know if we were dealing with parallel traffic or cross traffic since the
>>> oncoming parallel traffic would have to pass in front of us to continue,
>>> let alone the traffic pulling out of the store parking lot.
>>>
>>> We could not think our way out of this one, and was super frustrating to
>>> have good mobility, yet be unable to navigate intersections because of
>>> stupid geography and bad city planning, as far as I was concerned.
>>>
>>> We ended the evening deciding we could not close on the house.  The
>>> realtor understood our needs, and fortunately, so did the seller.  We
>>> had
>>> already given notice at our apartment, and was very embarrassing to ask
>>> for it back, fortunately we were able to get it.  That was a rough
>>> couple
>>> days, not sure if we had any place to go, and were checking with friends
>>> to see if we could camp out until we found a place.
>>>
>>> Moral of the story, walk it through, literally, before you make a
>>> commitment.
>>>
>>> My husband and I have bought and sold, now, four houses, and never did
>>> that scenario come up again.
>>>
>>> Best wishes, and keep us informed.
>>>
>>> Judy, whose girls are now 29 and 25.
>>>
>>> -----Original Message----- From: Allison via blparent
>>> Sent: Thursday, July 23, 2015 5:30 PM
>>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Cc: Allison
>>> Subject: [blparent] Baby on the Way! Now, Where to Live?
>>>
>>> Hi Everyone,
>>>
>>> First a quick intro since, while I've been reading this list for a
>>> while,
>>> I haven't posted much yet. I did write a couple of times about ovulation
>>> kits and pregnancy tests a while back. I'm happy to say that our
>>> attempts
>>> with ovulation kits were a success, and my fiance and I are expecting
>>> our
>>> first child this January! We're really excited!
>>>
>>> My fiance, Darrell,  and I are both blind and currently live in the
>>> Phoenix area. We have an apartment with a lease that will be up in
>>> September, and we're trying to decide where we want to live next. What
>>> we're finding so far is that, most of the houses that we can afford, are
>>> further from public transportation than we're used to. We love our
>>> current
>>> location, but we are looking for more space for when baby arrives. We
>>> went
>>> house-hunting last weekend, found one house that had a lot of space, a
>>> yard, was in our price range, and It was near one bus stop... sorta. We
>>> almost made an offer, but Darrell and I came to a hard realization.
>>> We're
>>> not sure we're quite ready to give up our urban lifestyle in order to
>>> become suburban home-owners just yet. We're willing to do it if it turns
>>> out best for raising a family, yet we're not sure if that's really
>>> necessary.
>>>
>>> So I'm coming to this list to learn from your collective experience as
>>> blind parents. What did you find was and was not really important when
>>> choosing a place to live with very young children? As a first time
>>> parent,
>>> I realize that I don't know what I'll need in terms of location. It's
>>> entirely possible that, the things I think are important in a location,
>>> aren't at all necessary, and there may be other truly important
>>> considerations that haven't even crossed my mind yet. So here are some
>>> questions that I'd like to bounce off of you guys...
>>>
>>> When you had babies or small children, did you find that you rode buses
>>> or
>>> light rails often? Was it more convenient to take cabs, paratransit, or
>>> hired drivers over other transit options? What is too long of a walk
>>> with
>>> a small child? Is a back yard a must, or is it more important to live
>>> near
>>> a park/playground? How helpful is it to be in walking or bus distance of
>>> restaurants, stores, or doctor offices? Will climbing stairs while
>>> juggling a cane, baby, and accessories eventually make us crazy? What of
>>> schools? Should I be factoring in proximity to schools if our baby isn't
>>> even born yet? What other factors am I not considering but are
>>> important?
>>>
>>> Knowing others' experiences will likely be helpful to us when deciding
>>> what location may work best for our family. Any feedback or suggestions
>>> from you all are appreciated!
>>>
>>> Thanks,
>>> Allison, Darrell, and Baby
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
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