[blparent] My Daughter

[Judy Jones]

I would imagine you are thinking of the safety of Rob and his daughter, as 
this is searchable by anyone, right?

Judy


-----Original Message----- 
From: David Andrews via blparent
Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 8:06 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Cc: David Andrews
Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter

I understand that you want advice and support, but are you sure you
want to post all this personal stuff here.  There is a searchable
archive, which is on the internet, so anyone can find it.

Dave

At 07:59 PM 5/11/2015, you wrote:
>FYI: I just found out why My x-wife won't let Brean come up here. she is 
>afraid I won't bring her back. As much as I would like to do that, I would 
>never do that. I told Breann to have a lawyer (if need be) write something 
>up stating that I am to bring her back after a visit. I will sign the 
>documentg if I need to.
>
>
>
>
>Rob Kaiser
>email;
>rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
>-----Original Message----- From: Jessica Reed via blparent
>Sent: Monday, May 11, 2015 5:53 PM
>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>Cc: Jessica Reed
>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>
>Wow! I think you are incredibly cruel! He was reaching out to the list for 
>help and advice.
>
>Sent from my iPhone
>
>>On May 11, 2015, at 4:37 PM, Star Gazer via blparent <blparent at nfbnet.org> 
>>wrote:
>>
>>                You had the resources to move halfway across
>>the country, find a fiance and be active in activities you care about.
>>Realize that as a parent, you may and probably will find love after a
>>divorce, but you can't just move all over the place and live wherever. If
>>you're sick, you need to find a way to be sick while still caring for your
>>family. That means talking with the teacher a lot, not "after a long 
>>time".
>>It means interacting with your children so that you know what's going on
>>with them. It means spending time with them. My point is that you've found
>>plenty of resources for what you care about, your fiance and your church.
>>You haven't cared enough about this child to call up a few family 
>>attourneys
>>and talk with them. You didn't keep this child's best interests at heart
>>with a custody agreement. Your ex didn't either which is too bad.
>>There is way more going on here then blindness. You are just a 
>>self-centered
>>human being who uses medical words so people will believe your sob story 
>>and
>>who happens to be blind. You also speak of this child as an object. You
>>didn't "inherit" her, that word choice is telling. Blindness isn't your 
>>only
>>problem.
>>
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob 
>>Kaiser
>>via blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 3:53 PM
>>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>Cc: Rob Kaiser
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>oops: I went back to Chicago to get away from a care bad care giver. I 
>>came
>>back after nine months to sing for a memorial service. My mom wanted me to
>>come back right away, but it was a while before I had the leg surgery. 
>>AFter
>>that, I decided to stay out here in Socal. Thank goodness I did, because 
>>the
>>last 2 Winters have been BRUTAL.!!!!! They say your blood thins out when 
>>you
>>are in warm weather for a long time. I belive believe it, because the 
>>Winter
>>I was in Chicago, the Winter was relatively mild, and I couldn't take even
>>that cold.
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>Rob Kaiser
>>email;
>>rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: Dianna via blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:40 PM
>>To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>Cc: Dianna
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>He can ask the child questions without "grilling"  that is what caring
>>parents do.  I did not know you left Chicago either.
>>
>>
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tammy via
>>blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 2:37 PM
>>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>Cc: Tammy
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>Hi,
>>
>>No offense meant here, but I don't think grilling your daughter is the way
>>to go here.  You really need legal help.  If your daughter is in danger, 
>>you
>>will be able to legally find that out and a legal agreement can be drawn 
>>up
>>by the court.  You said you're her guardian?  Are you her biodad as well?
>>
>>Tammy
>>
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 3:20 PM
>>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>Cc: Rob Kaiser
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>Pat has custody, but in the divorce, Breann didn't come up because my
>>Divorce attorney told me that I wasn't oblligated to pay Breann Child
>>Support. Pat & I worked it out ourselves. When I came back from Chicago 
>>and
>>decided to stay out here, and when I moved from Pat's house over to the
>>Extended stay hotel, I started taking Breann on the weekends. this also
>>allowed me to take her to church with me on Sundays so Breann could attend
>>Sunday School. When Sarah got into the picture, everything changed. Last
>>year, I was in Orange where Pat lived. Sarah & I wanted to take Breann out
>>for icecfream. Pat said "no." At the same time, Pat & Breann were facing
>>eviction. I offered to take Breann up with me and Sarah in case the 
>>eviction
>>happened. that way, Breann would be in a safe place with a roof over her
>>hhead and properly fed and clothed. Again, Pat said "No" to this. She will
>>not tell me why she won't let me take Breann with me for a few days. I 
>>have
>>assured her that I will bring Breann back to her mom. I said that because 
>>I
>>thought Pat was thinking that I was going to keep Breann with me
>>permanantly. That was the furthest thing on my mind. Now, I feel that I
>>might need to get Breann out and away from her mom. There was an incident 
>>a
>>year and a half ago when Pat (she is diabetic) and her sugar went very 
>>low.
>>Breann told me that her mom could hardly speek. I qasked Breann if she 
>>knew
>>about calling 911. She said she did, but she told me that her mom wouldn't
>>let her call them. I told Breann that when her mom gets to that state, she
>>needs immediate medical attention. I told Breann to call 911 first, and
>>then, call me so that I could get there to make sure that Breann was going
>>to be safe while her mom went to the hospital for attention. Pat (which
>>complicates things even more) now has a full blown ulcer. She told me at
>>Christmas, that she is barely eating anything. That could put her diabetes
>>in more jepardy in my oppinion. I'm going to have to ask Breann some key
>>questions so that I can get an idea what is really going on there.
>>
>>Again, tghanks for the suggestions.
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>Rob Kaiser
>>email;
>>rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:05 PM
>>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>Legal guardians is one thing, but visitation rights is another.  What does
>>your custody agreement say about where Brianne lives, and who has her for
>>what percentage of the time?
>>
>>Jo Elizabeth
>>
>>Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
>>kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
>>evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: Rob Kaiser via blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 12:57 PM
>>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>Cc: Rob Kaiser
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>Thanks for the informatio. When I spoke to Breann the other day, she was
>>really pushing for me to come and get her, but she keeps saying her mom
>>won't let her come up here. I might be talking to Breann later today, and 
>>I
>>will do what you suggested.
>>
>>Thanks.
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>Rob Kaiser
>>email;
>>rcubfank at sbcglobal.net
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 10:37 AM
>>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>Michael is right.  We would need to know more about your custody 
>>agreement.
>>Busting in there with the police is not usually a great way to go about
>>things, if the police would even oblige you.  What you need to do is take
>>your custody agreement to someone who deals in family law and go from 
>>there.
>>Maybe you can find a legal practice that works on a sliding scale, if
>>finances are a problem.  Have you spoken to Brianne about this, asked her 
>>if
>>she has an unfair burden of household chores?  If not, talk to her, but
>>don't put that idea in her head before she tells you about it.  Let her 
>>tell
>>you how she feels, what she would want her summer to look like as far as a
>>time split between you and her mom.
>>
>>Jo Elizabeth
>>
>>Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may
>>kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at
>>evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: Michael Baldwin via blparent
>>Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2015 8:52 AM
>>To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>Cc: Michael Baldwin
>>Subject: Re: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>What legal rights for Brianne does your X have? If you and her both have
>>legal custody of Brianne, with no set rules about who gets her when, I 
>>doubt
>>the police would do anything.
>>If you have sole custody of your daughter, then I think you're a fool for
>>letting her down there, away from you.
>>
>>Michael
>>
>>-----Original Message-----
>>From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rob 
>>Kaiser
>>via blparent
>>Sent: Saturday, May 09, 2015 9:24 PM
>>To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>Cc: Rob Kaiser
>>Subject: [blparent] My Daughter
>>
>>Hello all:
>>
>>This email may be quite long, and I appologize for this:
>>
>>As many of you know, I have a guardian daughter, Breann. At this time, she
>>is staying with her mom in Orange. I am currently living in Moreno Valley,
>>CA. Over a week ago, I spoke with Breann's teacher for the first time ina
>>long time. I was told that her grades are really slipping from As & Bs to 
>>Cs
>>and Ds. There has also been behavioral problems with Breann. I told my
>>X-wife that I would like to bring Breann up to Moreno Valley on a weeken.
>>for some reason My X-wife Pat, doesn't want to let me do that. She told me
>>that if I want to see Breann, I can come down to her house in Orange.
>>Because of the poor atransportation (public, pera and Metro link) on the
>>week ends, and that would be the best time for me to spend quality time 
>>with
>>Breann, it is next to impossible for me to get down there on the weekends
>>unless my fiance, Sarah is available to drive me down there. I have every
>>right to have Breann. I am still her legal Guardian. I am tempted to give
>>Pat an altimadum, and tell her that I can come down on a Friday and get 
>>her
>>and bring her up here until Sunday evening or very early Monday morning on
>>the train. If she won't comply, I am thinking about comeing down there 
>>with
>>the police and a coppy of the guardian ship papers. I don't want to get 
>>the
>>police involed, but I might not have a choice in this. Has anyone else had 
>>a
>>situation like this?
>>
>>I also feel that Pat (with her poor health) and with my step son, Jesse 
>>who
>>use to do everything for Pat (get Pats' meds, clean the house go to the
>>grocery store ETC.) Now, I have a feeling that Breann (who just turned 11)
>>is now going to have to do all of these things. Breann (as I just wrote) 
>>is
>>only 11 years old. I'm afraid that she (like Jesse) will not have a normal
>>child hood. I really want to get Breann out of there amicably, but I don't
>>think that will happen. I really could use some sugestions on this matter.
>>
>>Thankss to anyone who can help me on this.

         David Andrews and long white cane Harry.
E-Mail:  dandrews at visi.com or david.andrews at nfbnet.org


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