[blparent] Older Kids and Interaction with the Public

[sheila leigland]

hi this is a sensitive subject for be. I don't think that it would have 
been if I had noticed the same behavior amoung people and children of 
sighted parents. I had someone tell us that they hoped we would have ten 
children so that we would have ten pairs of eyes. There were times when 
one pair was enough thank you. lol.

On 6/16/2016 10:04 PM, Jennifer Bose via BlParent wrote:
> Hi, everyone.
>
> This is a tough one, JoElizabeth. Here's my reading of it: People are well-meaning, and they have all kinds of thoughts about blindness and how vulnerable they would suddenly be if they couldn't see, or if they had any other disability. I understand that better than I used to. I'm glad both individuals asked you before they treated your daughter to something. It's probably an individual thing in this situation. I could be accused of being proud and independent here, but their behavior strikes me as irritating. I don't mind my children talking to strangers when I'm nearby, and I'll go read what StarGazer suggested. Nevertheless, as I see it, we didn't have children in order to depend on them for help. As blunt as that sounds, I actually had a woman remark to me when I was expecting my daughter Abigail: "Oh, that's so sweet. She'll be such a help to you." Ick!! I would just set up a rule that Mom or Dad are the only ones who will buy treats for the kids if we're out, and I would politely communicate that to strangers who want to reward kids for their heroism in dealing with their burdensome blind parents. A little snarky for me, but there you go.
>
> Jen
>
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
>> On Jun 16, 2016, at 8:40 PM, Star Gazer via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>
>>                You all really need to read Gavin Debecker's
>> book, Protecting The Gift. He explains the flaw in the argument "never talk
>> to strangers" since everybody is a stranger until you get to know them. He
>> talks about how to teach kids, and how they can trust their instincts so
>> that they can evaluate people and situations appropriately. It's wonderful
>> material.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Roanna
>> Bacchus via BlParent
>> Sent: Thursday, June 16, 2016 5:35 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Cc: Roanna Bacchus <rbacchus228 at gmail.com>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Older Kids and Interaction with the Public
>>
>> Hi Jo Elizabeth thanks for your message.  I only except help from someone
>> when I need it.  I think these individuals were just trying to be helpful.
>> You should just enjoy it for what it is but teach your daughter never to
>> talk to strangers.
>>
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