[blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

[Wendy Meuse]

i felt really bad one time because my freezer and fridge were literally empty accept for some fish and chips I had bought and I 
agreed to watthem for my daughter for the afternoon.  i fixed theirr fish and chips for ssupper and they started fooling around. 
Jason sspsrinkled a half a shaker of salt on Zakkry's fish and chips and he couldn't eat them, and Zakry squeazed most of a bottle 
of catchup on jason's fish and chips thus both plates were ruined.  I sent them away from the table and just told them they had to 
do without supper since theyy had ruined each other's and I did not have anything else to give them.  I went in the bathroom and 
balled because when I was home from the blind school, my mom and dad made me do without food for the the slightest infraction.  I 
was not picky either.  I told Grace what happened when she came by to pick up the boys because they were whining about Grandma not 
giving them food and they were both mad at me.  i wondered if that would happen so i left the plates as they were on the table, and 
neither boy thought of their parents being able to se what they had done.  Grace and Rick both knew it was the end of the month andI 
had to wait for my check to come had assured me that both of them just loved fish and chips.  I don't  know what happened whenn they 
got home, but they never pulled a stunt like that on me again.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Judy Jones via BlParent" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Cc: "Judy Jones" <sonshines59 at gmail.com>
Sent: Tuesday, March 29, 2016 8:53 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old


It's the context that makes it either harsh or loving.  That is also going
to depend on the age of the child and their understanding.  I believe
children should be punished only for what they are accountable for.  For
instance, if they have unknowingly done something wrong, regardless what
age, if it is an honest mistake, (and that happens to us adults as well),
too, they should be gently guided in the way they understand.  But when a
child willfully disobeys, knowing what is expected, but makes that conscious
decision to be willful, that is when the stricter discipline should come
into play.  Willful disobedience is the marker here.

Judy


-----Original Message----- 
From: Rob Kaiser via BlParent
Sent: Tuesday, March 29, 2016 7:15 PM
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Cc: Rob Kaiser
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

When I was growing up, & if I did something bad, my parents would send me to
bed without supper. That, in this day & age, could be construed as too
harsh.

Rob Kaiser
Email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net

-----Original Message-----
From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jodie and
Kahlan via BlParent
Sent: Tuesday, March 29, 2016 5:38 PM
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Cc: Jodie and Kahlan <motherconfessor at samobile.net>
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

Lol Judy, it's funny that you mentioned counting to three beccause tonight
she actually did wait until 2.9999. I told her if she wanted her bike back
tomorrow she had to go to bed with no arguing or stalling tonight. She took
as much time as I would allow her to brush her teeth and still tried to take
her own sweet time. I told her she wasn't getting her bike back if she
wasn't out of the bathroom by the time I counted to three. I heard her run
past me just as I said three, so she doesn't get her bike back tomorrow. She
will learn natural consequences if it kills me!

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