[blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

[Jody Ianuzzi]

Hi Jody

I also had a very bright strong-willed child. Maybe it goes with the name,  I have been thinking about your problem a lot lately. One idea that I had was that when your daughter does something like take her clothes out of the drawers etc. and her answer is I did it because I can, what if you just sit down and say that when she does it it makes you feel very sad.  Now you have to spend time picking up after her instead of playing with her. If you make an emotional connection like that she might understand.

It does sound like she thinks she is the boss running things and that can be really dangerous emotionally and physically.  She is very bright and maybe you should just sit her down and explain that you are the mom and the dad and that you are the boss and that you have to work together as a family to do things.  

At four years old I think she is old enough to have some serious Conversations with her.  

Do you think she might actually be picking up some bad behaviors at preschool?

Signed the other

JODY 🐺
thunderwalker321 at gmail.com

"There's no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes."  DOCTOR WHO (Tom Baker)



> On Mar 30, 2016, at 9:55 AM, Judy Jones via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
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> Yes, it sounds like she has learned she can move faster than you can, (should not be true) when she wants to, and how she wants to, as a matter of course.  She believes her actions rule the home.  You will need to be physically on your feet and active with her when you need her to obey you, especially since you know she may not, decide to run, or do other things she can get away with if you are not in her vicinity to call a halt.  I'm not suggesting chasing her down at all, but am suggesting that you are in her space enough where she cannot run.  You will now have to retrain her that you have the control by being right there with her when you ask her to do something so she doesn't have a chance to run.
> 
> Judy
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old
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> We did ask her why she does it and she said, "because I can." There was no defiance in the answer; it was just her answer. She was stating a fact, not being rude or difiant.
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