[blparent] language use concern

[Judy Jones]

Yep, you're right.

I remember when our eldest hit grade school and heard the word retarded being used in a negative way to another kid's behavior.

My husband, who was in student disability services at a technical college at the time, explained how destructive that word was, explained that the term now is developmentally delayed, and what that really meant.

Sometime later, when she was annoyed with someone at school, she told us that this person was acting like a developmentally delayed person.  (smiles)

Judy

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From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Melissa Riccobono via BlParent
Sent: Wednesday, March 30, 2016 8:34 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] language use concern

I think you are definitely on the right track. My husband and I had the same problem with all three of our kids at one time or other. What finally worked for us was to give our kids a couple of substitute words they could say instead of stupid. We chose ridiculous for things we thought were not quite the smartest... (Such as that ridiculous race track keeps falling apart!) We also use it sometimes to refer to people (Elizabeth, you are acting
ridiculous!)
We also sometimes use "silly willy" or "Silly Willy Penguine." (Yeah, don't even ask how we came up with that one! It's an extremely long story!) It doesn't matter what word or words you choose to use. The point is having words you would like your son to say instead of words you do not like. Also talking to him about why you don't like those words would be good, in words he can understand, of course. Also pointing out that just because he hears others use those words does not mean he and your family agree with those words and are going to use them. I hope this helps! I know there are worse words than stupid, but I agree with you--I don't like that word. It is hard to escape however--even on TV shows and Disney and other kid movies I hear it.
Melissa

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From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of hina altaf via BlParent
Sent: Wednesday, March 30, 2016 10:04 AM
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Subject: [blparent] language use concern

Hi friends,
I am having this issue with my 4 year old preschooler very regularly and both I and my husband have tried every technique. None of us use any bad or wrong words around our son, however, he picked up words from my friend who is very rough and always uses all kinds of words around little kids. He has been saying "stupid" this "stupid that" We ignored it, corrected him, told him this is wrong and just completely ignored and did not respond so that he may stop using it, but nothing worked.
Any suggestions you guys have or any techniques that worked for you?
Hina.

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