[blparent] new member intro

Thu Sep 8 15:30:25 UTC 2016

				Just make sure an xbox is what you want him
to be doing. He'll still be living with you, and my problem with "his own
money" is we all think "I earned it, I can do what I want" without the piece
that there are things that you as the parent don't like. 
I recently had this talk with my daughter, she wanted to buy some virtual
something that cost real money. She said "It's my money, I can spend it how
I want" and I told her that I could put that money in a trust meaning she'd
not have permission to spend it however she chose or even access it until a
set period of time. She was quite impressed when I told her that was a legal
term and that adults can be under the same set of rules. 
Also, make sure a job as a minor is what you want him to be doing v.
focusing on school and volunteering. I know that when I volunteered in high
school, and even as a middle schooler, I was offered the opportunity and
took the opportunities to do things I'd never have been paid to do. I
learned a lot, much of which transferred very well into my career. 

-----Original Message-----
From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Josh
Kennedy via BlParent
Sent: Thursday, September 8, 2016 10:54 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Cc: Josh Kennedy <joshknnd1982 at gmail.com>
Subject: Re: [blparent] new member intro

yeah thats what I was thinking if he wants an xbox let him buy it himself
when he is 16 or so years old. then he works for it and appreciates it more
and all the really expensive games that go along with it.

On 9/8/2016 9:54 AM, Julie J. via BlParent wrote:
> It sounds like you've already made your decision. You're the parent, 
> it's totally all you as to what you buy your child.
>
> My personal buying electronics history...
> I think my son was 9 or 10, when I bought him a Game Boy...remember 
> those? *smile*  I don't think they make them anymore, but my son, now 
> an adult, still has his and it still works.
> In junior high school I got him a lap top.  I put it in the same room 
> where I have my computer, so I could supervise  him while still 
> getting my own stuff done.
> In high school he got a desktop computer.  We homeschooled and the 
> computer use increased with that.  He was also interested in audio and 
> video recording and editing.  All totally appropriate and supervised, 
> although by this time we had developed a strong history of trust about 
> the use of technology.  So I didn't supervise as closely.
> The last thing I purchased was an iPad mini.  He wanted something 
> portable. It also worked out great in the long run because he refuses 
> to get a phone...he's never had a cell phone...but with the iPad I can 
> talk to him with FaceTime, messages and email.
>
> Oh, he did also have a variety of game specific systems, X box and 
> Playstation, but he  purchased those himself in the high school years.
>
> Kids are different, parents are different and there is not going to be 
> some purchasing plan that works for everyone.  You have to do what you 
> feel you need to do that's in the best interest of your child.  I'd 
> encourage you to think about the difference between need and want and 
> what gift giving means to you.  In my mind gift giving is for the 
> giver to decide what is most appropriate, useful, appreciated, 
> meaningful etc.  There are people in my life who think Christmas is 
> when you submit your shopping list and the stuff appears.  That's not 
> how I operate. To each his own though.
>
> Julie
> New lowered price on my book:
> Courage to Dare: A Blind Woman's Quest to Train her Own Guide Dog 
> http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00QXZSMOC
> -----Original Message----- From: Josh Kennedy via BlParent
> Sent: Thursday, September 08, 2016 6:40 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Josh Kennedy
> Subject: Re: [blparent] new member intro
>
> at least with the tablet he would not be shut up in his room with it. 
> I would not allow that.
>
>
>
> On 9/8/2016 5:58 AM, Star Gazer via BlParent wrote:
>> I'd also sayno to the tablet. You asked so there's my answer.
>> I'm not real sure you want an answer on him getting a job, v. not 
>> getting a job, but I can give you some very cogent arguments on why 
>> he should focus on school and not get a job until he's legally an 
>> adult, i.e. out of high school if you'd like.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Josh 
>> Kennedy via BlParent
>> Sent: Wednesday, September 7, 2016 11:58 PM
>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Cc: Josh Kennedy <joshknnd1982 at gmail.com>
>> Subject: [blparent] new member intro
>>
>> hi
>> I'm a new member well not exactly I was on this list about 10 years ago.
>> But I may be new to some of you. Anyway my name is Josh Kennedy I 
>> live in a rural town in PA. I subscribed mainly because I have a 
>> question. My sighted son is 9 years old. He keeps asking for an xbox 
>> 1 or xbox 1s for Christmas.
>> But they are expensive and I'm on SSI. Also my tv only has one HDMI 
>> connection and that is being used by the apple tv box. and I'd rather 
>> not spend nearly $600 for an xbox 1s and a new tv to put in his 
>> bedroom where he wouldn't be supervised as much. I'm totally blind by 
>> the way and use NVDA for my screen reader and will soon be using the 
>> orbit reader20 low cost braille display for braille input and output.
>> You all can google search orbit reader20 if you want more info so 
>> anyway rather than getting him an xbox 1s and new tv and stuff 
>> besides I don't have the money for a new tv in my living room with 2 
>> or more HDMI connectors at the moment and I won't for a good many 
>> months... So do you all think I should just get him a good android 
>> tablet? I found one with a 10.6 inch screen octa-core 8 processors 
>> and 2gigs of ram for $130.
>> much more affordable for me. It's difficult to save money when only 
>> on SSI.
>> I had to save 6 months and give up lots of stuff just to save up for 
>> the orbit reader 20 at $499 due out in october 2016. He keeps asking 
>> for M-rated games like GTA and the crew and stuff like that. So what 
>> do you all think.
>> save up for xbox 1s, and new bigger tv or good nearly 11-inch much 
>> more affordable android tablet? also gotta save for the braigo low 
>> cost embosser supposed to be out next year so I can have as much 
>> braille as possible for his future school endeavors. next point is i 
>> figure if he wants a fancy xbox when he's older that may give him an 
>> incentive to get a job and get it himself. after all if I get him 
>> everything where's the incentive to eventually work for or save for 
>> what he wants to have just like i had to save for the orbit reader20 
>> and will save for the low cost braigo embosser due out sometime in 
>> 2017?
>>
>> thanks
>>
>> Josh Kennedy
>>
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