[blparent] new member intro

Thu Sep 8 15:37:01 UTC 2016

well if worse comes to worse depending on what he does in high school 
when he is 18 or older he can get whatever he wants. I guess when he is 
18 or older if it bothers me I could tell him to move out and get his 
own place. But that is years away yet and who knows what will happen by 
2025 or 2026.

On 9/8/2016 11:30 AM, Star Gazer via BlParent wrote:
> 				Just make sure an xbox is what you want him
> to be doing. He'll still be living with you, and my problem with "his own
> money" is we all think "I earned it, I can do what I want" without the piece
> that there are things that you as the parent don't like.
> I recently had this talk with my daughter, she wanted to buy some virtual
> something that cost real money. She said "It's my money, I can spend it how
> I want" and I told her that I could put that money in a trust meaning she'd
> not have permission to spend it however she chose or even access it until a
> set period of time. She was quite impressed when I told her that was a legal
> term and that adults can be under the same set of rules.
> Also, make sure a job as a minor is what you want him to be doing v.
> focusing on school and volunteering. I know that when I volunteered in high
> school, and even as a middle schooler, I was offered the opportunity and
> took the opportunities to do things I'd never have been paid to do. I
> learned a lot, much of which transferred very well into my career.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Josh
> Kennedy via BlParent
> Sent: Thursday, September 8, 2016 10:54 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Cc: Josh Kennedy <joshknnd1982 at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] new member intro
>
> yeah thats what I was thinking if he wants an xbox let him buy it himself
> when he is 16 or so years old. then he works for it and appreciates it more
> and all the really expensive games that go along with it.
>
>
>
> On 9/8/2016 9:54 AM, Julie J. via BlParent wrote:
>> It sounds like you've already made your decision. You're the parent,
>> it's totally all you as to what you buy your child.
>>
>> My personal buying electronics history...
>> I think my son was 9 or 10, when I bought him a Game Boy...remember
>> those? *smile*  I don't think they make them anymore, but my son, now
>> an adult, still has his and it still works.
>> In junior high school I got him a lap top.  I put it in the same room
>> where I have my computer, so I could supervise  him while still
>> getting my own stuff done.
>> In high school he got a desktop computer.  We homeschooled and the
>> computer use increased with that.  He was also interested in audio and
>> video recording and editing.  All totally appropriate and supervised,
>> although by this time we had developed a strong history of trust about
>> the use of technology.  So I didn't supervise as closely.
>> The last thing I purchased was an iPad mini.  He wanted something
>> portable. It also worked out great in the long run because he refuses
>> to get a phone...he's never had a cell phone...but with the iPad I can
>> talk to him with FaceTime, messages and email.
>>
>> Oh, he did also have a variety of game specific systems, X box and
>> Playstation, but he  purchased those himself in the high school years.
>>
>> Kids are different, parents are different and there is not going to be
>> some purchasing plan that works for everyone.  You have to do what you
>> feel you need to do that's in the best interest of your child.  I'd
>> encourage you to think about the difference between need and want and
>> what gift giving means to you.  In my mind gift giving is for the
>> giver to decide what is most appropriate, useful, appreciated,
>> meaningful etc.  There are people in my life who think Christmas is
>> when you submit your shopping list and the stuff appears.  That's not
>> how I operate. To each his own though.
>>
>> Julie
>> New lowered price on my book:
>> Courage to Dare: A Blind Woman's Quest to Train her Own Guide Dog
>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00QXZSMOC
>> -----Original Message----- From: Josh Kennedy via BlParent
>> Sent: Thursday, September 08, 2016 6:40 AM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: Josh Kennedy
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] new member intro
>>
>> at least with the tablet he would not be shut up in his room with it.
>> I would not allow that.
>>
>>
>>
>> On 9/8/2016 5:58 AM, Star Gazer via BlParent wrote:
>>> I'd also sayno to the tablet. You asked so there's my answer.
>>> I'm not real sure you want an answer on him getting a job, v. not
>>> getting a job, but I can give you some very cogent arguments on why
>>> he should focus on school and not get a job until he's legally an
>>> adult, i.e. out of high school if you'd like.
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Josh
>>> Kennedy via BlParent
>>> Sent: Wednesday, September 7, 2016 11:58 PM
>>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>>> Cc: Josh Kennedy <joshknnd1982 at gmail.com>
>>> Subject: [blparent] new member intro
>>>
>>> hi
>>> I'm a new member well not exactly I was on this list about 10 years ago.
>>> But I may be new to some of you. Anyway my name is Josh Kennedy I
>>> live in a rural town in PA. I subscribed mainly because I have a
>>> question. My sighted son is 9 years old. He keeps asking for an xbox
>>> 1 or xbox 1s for Christmas.
>>> But they are expensive and I'm on SSI. Also my tv only has one HDMI
>>> connection and that is being used by the apple tv box. and I'd rather
>>> not spend nearly $600 for an xbox 1s and a new tv to put in his
>>> bedroom where he wouldn't be supervised as much. I'm totally blind by
>>> the way and use NVDA for my screen reader and will soon be using the
>>> orbit reader20 low cost braille display for braille input and output.
>>> You all can google search orbit reader20 if you want more info so
>>> anyway rather than getting him an xbox 1s and new tv and stuff
>>> besides I don't have the money for a new tv in my living room with 2
>>> or more HDMI connectors at the moment and I won't for a good many
>>> months... So do you all think I should just get him a good android
>>> tablet? I found one with a 10.6 inch screen octa-core 8 processors
>>> and 2gigs of ram for $130.
>>> much more affordable for me. It's difficult to save money when only
>>> on SSI.
>>> I had to save 6 months and give up lots of stuff just to save up for
>>> the orbit reader 20 at $499 due out in october 2016. He keeps asking
>>> for M-rated games like GTA and the crew and stuff like that. So what
>>> do you all think.
>>> save up for xbox 1s, and new bigger tv or good nearly 11-inch much
>>> more affordable android tablet? also gotta save for the braigo low
>>> cost embosser supposed to be out next year so I can have as much
>>> braille as possible for his future school endeavors. next point is i
>>> figure if he wants a fancy xbox when he's older that may give him an
>>> incentive to get a job and get it himself. after all if I get him
>>> everything where's the incentive to eventually work for or save for
>>> what he wants to have just like i had to save for the orbit reader20
>>> and will save for the low cost braigo embosser due out sometime in
>>> 2017?
>>>
>>> thanks
>>>
>>> Josh Kennedy
>>>
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