[blParent] Attaching a bell to a crawling baby

Thu Oct 31 13:09:09 UTC 2019

I always had the bell idea in the back of my mind while in the house but as it turned out I could hear where my daughter was and only occasionally used it.  I walked a lot without shoes on in the house so even if I touched her with my foot it wasn't a big deal.  Mostly, the rule applies--if they're quiet, they're into something they shouldn't be.  As they get older the trick is to know if they're quiet because they're reading a picture book or some such thing.  I kept a lot of contact but my rule was that my daughter had to have the same freedoms as if I weren't blind.  In the yard she did have shoes with bells on.  I often sat between her and the edge of the yard so if she started heading toward the street I could head her off.  As someone else has pointed out, you shouldn't have to have a sighted person around at all times.  It sends a bad message to your child that you're somehow not capable of being her parent.  Like many things about blindness, doing the right thing sometimes does take more work.  Keeping closer.  Paying more attention.  Listening and touching.  But, it was all so wonderful.  I'd never trade the experience.  
When my daughter was about 3 or so, I tried to explain to her that I couldn't see.  At first she didn't understand what that meant exactly so I talked in terms of my eyes not working.  So, she thought about it and came to me a day or so later and told me she had decided I wasn't blind.  I asked her why and she said, "Because you do everything for me that mama does."  And, it was true.  I had pretty much figured a work-around for using vision for everything.  Now she's seventeen (just yesterday), and she's a wonderfully competent young lady.  She thinks that most people ask stupid questions about blindness and that it just isn't a big thing.  She can't understand how it would be.
Good luck in your parenting.  It can truly be as wonderful for a blind parent as for a sighted parent.  Yes, parenting is scary sometimes because kids don't come with an instruction book and parenting is really on-the-job training, but hey, hundreds of millions have done it before you so jump in, the water's fine.
Mike Bullis

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From: BlParent <blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Dacia Cole via BlParent
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Subject: Re: [blParent] Attaching a bell to a crawling baby

My only concern about using a bracelet of bells on their wrist or ankle  is that they are more likely to put them in their mouth which could lead to them choking on them. If they are pinned to their clothing, it is much harder for them to get a hold of them. As for having someone always watching where they are, I don’t believe that is necessary. As others have stated, just walk carefully, and yes, you might touch them with your foot or accidentally lightly step on them, but every parent, even cited parents step on or accidentally trip over their children, because, they like to get under foot.

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> On Oct 30, 2019, at 8:27 PM, sheila leigland via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> When my son was a baby it would have been imposible to have a sighted 
> person always around when he was not in a playpen crib or swing. Our 
> pediatrician was wonderful and reminded me that Mark needed the 
> freedom to explore his surroundings and that he couldn't and shouldn't 
> be kept in a secluded emviornment. We developed age appropriate 
> guidelines and trudsted ourselves to keep him safe. I'm  not saying 
> din
> 
> t seep the baby safe but allow him to grow and trust yourselves to be capable parents. My husband and I are totally blind and it can be done and done well.
> 
>> On 10/29/2019 2:31 PM, Tony Malykh via BlParent wrote:
>> Sharon,
>> 
>> Has it ever happened to you that you kicked your son accidentally while walking?
>> 
>> Right now we try to have pretty strict rules in our home to always have a sighted adult watching over the baby and letting me and my wife know every time the baby crawls out of the playmat. But it actually requires a lot of energy to always keep thinking where is baby right now. So I'm thinking about relaxing the rules and I'm curious how safe it would be if we let the baby crawl wherever he wants and we just follow your advice to walk carefully.
>> 
>> And I guess, even if I kick the baby, that wouldn't do much harm (relatively), but I'm more worried about tripping over and falling on him.
>> 
>>> On 10/28/2019 11:19 AM, Sharon Howerton via BlParent wrote:
>>> Tony, one of my students said they used to pin a bell to the back of 
>>> their son's shirt so he couldn't get it off. When my sons were 
>>> young, and they are now in their 30's, I just learned to walk very carefully!
>>> Best of luck!
>>> Sharon
>>> 
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: BlParent <blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Tony 
>>> Malykh via BlParent
>>> Sent: Monday, October 28, 2019 12:30 PM
>>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
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>>> Subject: [blParent] Attaching a bell to a crawling baby
>>> 
>>> Hello all,
>>> Our baby has started to crawl around the house, and in order not to 
>>> trip over him, we'd like to attach a bell to him.
>>> Where is the best place to attach the bell, and how can we attach it?
>>> Safety pins come to mind, but I wanted to check if there are any 
>>> better suggestions.
>>> And also, are there any other solutions to this problem? Like maybe 
>>> there is a smart electronic device that only beeps when blind 
>>> parents are approaching...
>>> 
>>> Thanks!
>>> Tony
>>> 
>>> 
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